mothers wants me out but i ve the leaving this yr!!!

missplaced

help! I am nearly 19 in january Im a sixth year student studying 6 honours subjects and 2 pass ones im of gud intelligence and enjoy school but my disadvantaged mother wants e out of the house as Im getting too old. to state my mother is a low life she wont work lives on child benifits and dole she blames government for everything so to speak this woman and her whole family are scumbsags f&*K !! excuse my french ahem.

she is a horrible woman and keeps pestering me to sleep with her friend down the road as he said he would pay her a great deal of money if she made me please help I cry everynight overthis only reason I dont just leave is the leaving cert, and no money also dont suggest move in with other family members tried it their worse and equal.

So as I was saying I have no job tried everywhere and I would enter a youth place up town only if I could still do my honours I will be the only family member to go to college this yr hopefully.

so if anyone has any advice on funding or jobs so I can live a normal life please help !!!!

mood

You could contact a social workers in you area and could possibly be placed in foster care until you get your leaving cert results. Not ideal but it would be better than your present suitation.

The_Conductor

I agree with mood.
You need to get out of there. The fact that you're doing your leaving cert is irrelevant- for the sake of your own sanity- you need to extricate yourself from the situation.

LegacyUser

My God that sounds horrible. And to be honest it doesn't sound like a very safe place for you to be.

I think yes you should contact the local social worker and see if they can help you. Your 19 so I doubt foster care is relevant but they might be able to set you up with somewhere better to stay. I think you have your own priorties right so don't lose sight of them and just try to get yourself to a safer environment

wolfric

I'm not sure this would apply for your case but give it a shot.
http://www.studentfinance.ie/mp7232/maintenance-grant/index.html
There are also student loans and such. You could inquire about it in a police station (about options and money solutions) and perhaps if there's a certain teacher who's serious or cares a lot about class or that you could just share with (or even a school nurse).

minidazzler

OP, get on to a Social worker as soon as possible. It is possible for you to be moved into a different place to stay. Bring it to the attention of your Principal and they should be able to help with it.

Your mother is the single most disgusting person I have ever heard of. How could anyone ask their daughter to do that!!!

OP, it's not ideal but you will be able to get out with a social workers help and you would qualify for alot of grants and such for college.

mood

I would also like to say I don't think you should tell your mother or anyone else what your plans are. Get help you need, move your stuff out then tell your mother your going/gone.

redout

missplaced wrote: »

help! I am nearly 19 in january Im a sixth year student studying 6 honours subjects and 2 pass ones im of gud intelligence and enjoy school but my disadvantaged mother wants e out of the house as Im getting too old. to state my mother is a low life she wont work lives on child benifits and dole she blames government for everything so to speak this woman and her whole family are scumbsags f&*K !! excuse my french ahem.

she is a horrible woman and keeps pestering me to sleep with her friend down the road as he said he would pay her a great deal of money if she made me please help I cry everynight overthis only reason I dont just leave is the leaving cert, and no money also dont suggest move in with other family members tried it their worse and equal.

So as I was saying I have no job tried everywhere and I would enter a youth place up town only if I could still do my honours I will be the only family member to go to college this yr hopefully.

so if anyone has any advice on funding or jobs so I can live a normal life please help !!!!

Is this a piss-take ? Sorry to express doubt but reading that just doesnt sit right with me. The language seems all wrong.

thefeatheredcat

OP, I really feel for you on this. I agree with what everyone's said - get yourself out of the situation before it deteriorates further.

As for the friend down the road, that's coercion into prostitution and illegal, no matter what age you are or what your relationship is to any person. No matter what your personal security has been threatened, and the Guards should be informed. If you have younger brothers/sisters then help should be sought asap for their protection.

Speak to your councillor or principal in school, people that you trust and the authorities - its a heavy burden for someone so young to have to deal with.

Even if they can't help directly with helping financially, they can be your support in other ways. They may know of someone that you could stay with temporarily and have access the services that you need.

Fiend-Foe

I moved out at 17 and got a house share, I worked part time at weekends to pay my rent and did my leaving cert. I'm sure even if you can't find part-time work you'll be able to get rent allowance or pay it with your dole money/back to education allowance. Speak to your community welfare officer.

mikemac

There will be no dole or Back to education allowance. The OP is in 6th year, a full time student.

So she isn't looking for a full time job or leaving welfare to go do a full time course.

I'm not sure what other options are there, go see the community welfare officer anyway

Fiend-Foe

mikemac wrote: »

There will be no dole or Back to education allowance. The OP is in 6th year, a full time student.

So she isn't looking for a full time job or leaving welfare to go do a full time course.

I'm not sure what other options are there, go see the community welfare officer anyway

Yeah, I'm sure she'll be able to get the supplementary welfare allowance and rent allowance. They can't just leave somebody with nothing.

jellyboy

your nearlly 19...the socail work isnt an option..... go to your guidance counseller at school? failing that the local homless unit in ur arera can give u helpful advice....


contact the samartains or any of the teen support groups to provide you with a vioce,,,,

minidazzler

jellyboy wrote: »

your nearlly 19...the socail work isnt an option..... go to your guidance counseller at school? failing that the local homless unit in ur arera can give u helpful advice....


contact the samartains or any of the teen support groups to provide you with a vioce,,,,

She's in school, Social workers can help.

kittenkiller

Could you ask to stay with a friend until your exams are over?
Would your principal be able to offer help?
He/she might know of someone in the school who is takes people in.

I hope you find a way out whatever you decide to do OP.

wasper

redout wrote: »

Is this a piss-take ? Sorry to express doubt but reading that just doesnt sit right with me. The language seems all wrong.

Same here.