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Shyness is killing me

  • 17-10-2009 6:31pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I'm a 30 year old professional. Single, considered relatively good looking, and have had little success with women and basically it is because of my shyness. It is something that affects me when meeting new people not just trying meet somebody, but if I am out with a group, introduced to anybody new. It is nearly like a defence mechanism - I become tongue-tied, have nothing to offer the conversation, until I feel comfortable in the company of somebody and then I open up. The amount of people then that seem to think I am great craic, and very nice once that happens - and are shocked because I am a church mouse otherwise - is very large! So it's not all bad.

    Recently I become close to a girl and because of my shyness ended up in the "friend zone" and she moved on to somebody else. And I don't know how I am going to get over the issue of confidence/shyness with regard to a relationship - it is a further step to feeling comfortable in a group.

    I don't know why I feel this way - there is a lot going for me. I am quite tall and do feel awkward and self-conscious about my height, and maybe that is something but any tips on feeling confident and acting confident would be great.

    Thanks for listening


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  • #2
    winking weber
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    Aww. You sound lovely. Lots of women go for shy men or rather the quiet confident types.
    I dont have much advice to offer, only practice talking to strangers of both sexes, whether you fancy them or not. Try and get out of your comfort zone a little and the more you practice the better you will get at it.


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