Should I continue counselling?

LegacyUser

I had a bout of depression this year, went to counselling. Have been seeing this counsellor on and off all year, and it has been great. I have talked out a lot of stuff that needed talking out, and I have a better perspective on things.

Lately the sessions have become 'samey,' if you know what I mean, I can't figure out where else to take it. It is just rehashing the same conversation every week at this stage. I think I am done with it. I am not as depressed as I was earlier, though I still get very down on occasions.

Yet I still don't feel 'right,' whatever right is. I am perpetually lonely, not because I can't get on with people, but because I just seem to be poles apart from people. I am interested in very different things to most people, and seem to share no common ground with the majority. I live in my head a lot, and am very happy there, but it is not a fulfilling life. I don't want to change who I am, I like 'me,' but I just wish I could be accepted more.

I don't know whether to give the counselling a break, as it isn't really going anywhere at this stage. Yet I don't know what else to do. I feel isolated, out of the loop, and I'm still searching for something, but I don't know what it is. Should I continue counselling, or are there any suggestions where next I could go in my counselling? I feel the visits are being wasted at this stage, although they were good for a long time.

LegacyUser

Hi OP,

I was exactly where you were - depressed and working on myself in therapy, only you will know that your time is over but maybe you could ask the therapist does she think you are ready to leave, I did therapy for 2 full years and it came to a natural end it felt finished i felt fully healed the therapist sent me out in the world with new emotional skills and i have embraced life and i am happy and content for the firtst time in my life. I really think that you need to feel that you can cope emotionally and be ready in your life, the therapy was so great to have as a resource and space for your emotions because it can be very hard to get that from family and friends, you have also built up a relationship with the therapist which was a lot of hard work done, I know the routine of it can get a bit tough at times but maybe you could tell her your taking a break for 2 weeks to go on holiday. It seems to have really helped you this far, what if you could go a bit deeper and really get to the roots and be done with it, like what if you are not finished with processing your pain and you need to go back next year you may as well get it all done now.

I just want to stress that i have no depression anxiety panic anymore i am such a different person, i am fully expressive now and i think that it is really worth getting any pain dealt with.

wolfric

I think you should move onto a life couch. Counselling is for working out issues where as life couching is about moving forward and planning what you want and showing you how to get it.

Here's a touch free, Make out a list of what you want from counselling. What's wrong in your life that you want to fix. Ask your counselled to go through these with you and what you need to do to get them. Ask them about going again and if you need to.