Is There Something wrong with Me

kildarelad

I split up with my girlfriend four months ago and feel im ready to start seeing somebody else. I cant seem to meet anybody nice.I go on nites out and keep meeting randomers get their number txt them the next day and nothing ever comes out of it. I look at all my friends that have girlfriends and feel lonely. I have nobody to do things with like go the the cinema etc and when i ask them to come their busy with their girlfriends. Its starting to get me down i joined the gym to get fitter and meet new people but im afraid im gonna end up being single for a long time.

LegacyUser

It a bummer alright! I split with my fella a while back and sort of feel the same....I joined a martial arts class, not that I think I'll really meet anyone there but its getting back out there I reckon. Make the effort with any single friends to meet up, and I know its not everyones thing, but joina dating website! I joined anotherfriend.com last week and everyone really nice, its more like a chat/friends thing doesnt feel sleazy or weird which I had thought it might lol.

ncmc

I'm sure there's nothing wrong with you Kildarelad. The fact is, you have only been single for 4 months which isn't a long time at all. It's also a fact that the pub/club isn't a great place to meet people (unless you're after a ONS). Joining the gym is a great start, I know people who've met their OH in the gym. You seem to have a lot f friends in relationships, what about seeing if their GF's have any nice single friends? You could go out as a group with them. It's always easier to meet people through mutual friends rather than trying to pick up randomers in the pub.

I hate to say this and please don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds like you may be a bit desperate and that can be a big turn off. Why not just chill out a bit, enjoy being single for a while, give yourself time to get over your last partner. If you are more relaxed women won't get scared off as much!

kildarelad

Maybe i do come across as being desperate im not sure.Its just she really knocked my confidence and have to prove to myself i can meet somebody again i suppose and its not happening and thats why its getting me down

thee glitz

It's only a few months, I wouldn't be getting too upsetl (and the same thing
happened me and I was exactly as you've described). That was about 6 months
ago now and I've gotten over having to prove anything to myself. Enjoy being
able to do what you want and single life in general, won't you miss it!! Joining
a gym sounds a big positive, I've been meaning to do that too. The right
girl will come along when you're not looking so hard (no, I actually do believe that).

kildarelad

Its hard to get on with things and keep the head up though isnt it

muboop1

Sounds like you feel you need someone?

First thing is first, get that idea out of your head.

You don't!

Clubs are rubbish places to meet girls, join a club you have an interest in. Least you will meet some like minded people!

You sound like your in a place where you could just settle for someone? Bad idea!

Mate, get happy being single!

When you are happy with yourself confidence will come...
Confidence will get you more girls then you know what to do with!

But first thing's first. Get happy single on your own. Else relationships are a crutch!

thee glitz

It's tough alright, but it goes away. As muboop1 suggested, you sound like
you'd try making a go of it someone when they aren't quite right for you.
That's not fair on either of you and just a BIG mistake. You'll have to beome
happy with yourself first, you wouldn't want to come across as needy?

LegacyUser

aabb wrote: »

It a bummer alright! I split with my fella a while back and sort of feel the same....I joined a martial arts class, not that I think I'll really meet anyone there but its getting back out there I reckon. Make the effort with any single friends to meet up, and I know its not everyones thing, but joina dating website! I joined anotherfriend.com last week and everyone really nice, its more like a chat/friends thing doesnt feel sleazy or weird which I had thought it might lol.

Try internet dating..it's really got potential..met my current gf through it ..was in your boat a wee while back (split from live in gf..) Thought I'd never get over her..but I now I wonder what all the fuss was about..hppy dayz and all thanks to the internet....


Best of luck with it