Age - Should I tell her?

LegacyUser

So met this amazing girl 3 months ago and we have been seeing each other since. One problem is when I initially met her I lied about my age. Shes 25 and I am 20. I want to tell her but wondering if this would be a good idea? I know women tend to dislike going out with guys that much younger than them and don't want to lose her. The girl is very attractive and I am always having to deal with guys approaching her so I just feel I can't really give her any reason to think less of me

lilirish

The primary problem here won't be the age thing. It will be the fact that you lied, for three months.

If you don't tell her what are you going to do when its your brithday or she meets your mates/family...?

Tell her and now, explain why you did it and let her make up her on mind. Its not a terible thing that you did but if you carry it on its going to be.

Take care.

ash23

She won't think much of you for lying to her! What will you do if you're still with her when your 21st rolls around?

This isn't something you can sustain. She will find out. The sooner she does the better. If she doesn't want to be with you because of your age then there isn't much you can do about it.
But at least you have a chance if you tell her. If you don't and she finds out you'll be kicked to the kerb so fast your head will spin.

Age difference is not as big a deal as lying is.

CDfm

I think she might know. But it shouldnt really matter to her now she knows you.

Astrogeek

Why did you leave it three months before thinking of telling her the truth?! She is obviously going to find out eventually!

Loopsie

my best friend was in exactly the same situation as your girlfirend, she was twenty eight and going out with a guy she thought (who told her) was 26.....they were together about 4/5 months when it came out that he was 22. The sh*t did hit the fan and she was far more annoyed about being lied to but at the end of the day she had fallen in love with this guy, they sorted it out and did in actual fact life together for about a year!!!
TELL HER TELL HER TELL HER!!!!!!!!!

dublingal80

my ex did the exact same thing. he pretended for 3 months he was only 5 years older than me, but he was ten years older than me

the trouble was, i had already told my family about him and his age and it made me feel like a fool that i was lied to.. and how can you bring that conversation up to your parents ....oh you know the guy im seeing and i said he was 27, well no, he is 32, ten years older than me. oh why did i say he was 27, yeah cos he told me he was, yeah he lied

its such a stupid situation you have put her in. you just thought of yourself on this one and not the consequences. firstly you HAVE to come clean to her. After that, its up to her

CDfm

OP - Ive seen a few posts here. If she is that worried about your age she is not worth it as she should be worried about you as a person. We all tell little lies in life and this is one of them. Not nice but we do. I have a younger girlfriend and it is only apparent when we talk about stuff like movies tv music etc. If she is anything like any of the women I know she has picked up on the subtleties and the not soo subtle things and kept quite.

You will be fine -even if you do feel like a dweeb.

LegacyUser

Well i only lied in the first place because before our first date wen i told her i was in college she txted back going she was worried im young and asked me what age i was so I lied. Things have been going great. to be honest i just want her to get to know me more before she instantly breaks it off solely on my age.

Sephiroth_dude

gbhbg wrote: »

Well i only lied in the first place because before our first date wen i told her i was in college she txted back going she was worried im young and asked me what age i was so I lied. Things have been going great. to be honest i just want her to get to know me more before she instantly breaks it off solely on my age.

But your lieing to her,so she'll probbly break up with you anyway for that alone.Just tell her.

dublingal80

well.... did you tell her?

LegacyUser

lied to my gf about my age. told her i was 26 when im really 22 she is 3 years older than me. so anyway i knew id to tell her the truth at some stage. we were going on holidays for 2 weeks so on the plane i said ive something to tell you. i told her on the palne cause i knew if she dumped me id have 2 weeks to talk her around. she was thick for about a day but got over it and we'd a great holiday. 5 years later we are still together. just tell her you lied cause she was the most beautiful amazing woman you'd ever in your life seen and you didnt want to miss out on the opportunity to get to know her because society says a stuipid number like age should change things. I'd suggest waiting till she has fallen for you to tell her its harder for her to walk away then.