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stuck in a rut

  • 15-10-2009 10:20pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    On tuesday night i went out with some of my friends from college. That night i scored a girl and we went back to her place. When we were in bed we had an argument and i ended up leaving. As i was walking home, two thugs jumped me and did a fair bit of damage to my face and i have a lot of bruising on my body while they stole 50euro i had in my wallet. Im quite a big guy and well able to look after myself, however as i was unaware if they could have had knifes i just protected my head. Unfortunately since then my confidence has been absolutely shattered, i dont like going anywhere on my own and i feel very low. I havent been able to go to lecture since because i didnt want ppl lookin at my face.

    My question is can anyone offer me advice on getting back to my own self?I was a very confident and outgoing guy with a large circle of friends.Now im just keeping to myself abit, maybe its just the shock as i have never been in a fight or anything before.
    PS getting councelling is out the window!! And there is no point reporting the matter to the guards as the same thing happened to my friend, he reported it and nothing has been done!!


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Op sorry to hear about your mugging experience.

    Sounds like you are suffering from shock after the attack. That is easy to understand too.

    Before this incident causes you more trauma, if you dont want to approach counselling, maybe something like Victim Support would be of some help to you. I haven't needed to use their services (thankfully) but I've heard they are a good organisation. They may have practical ways you can go about regaining your confidence again.

    Victim Support
    Tel: 1800 661 771


  • #3
    Grimebox
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    Why is counselling out of the question? Surely whatever college you have some facilities that could accommodate you. If talking to a stranger is a bit much, try thrash it all with a sibling or a close friend. You might think it wont help your situation, but believe me, sometimes the solution to the problem is simply talking about the problem. What is that phrase they throw around on banners alot in college... oh yeah, Please talk!


  • #4
    sunnyside
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    On a practical level hide in the house until the bruising goes down but no longer. You need to start going out and about as normal again, start with daytime outings, lectures, coffee, trips to town, cinema, whatever students do in the daytime and next time you are going somewhere alone at night get a taxi.


  • #5
    InReality
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,374 ✭✭✭InReality


    Well its a big shock to get mugged , esp if your a big guy.
    ( might never have thought it could happen to them )

    So give yourself some time to get over it.

    And IMO you were right not to get aggressive back , if they had knives you would have been completely F**ked.


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