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Debs

  • 15-10-2009 3:29pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    This girl that really likes me asked me to the debs but i kinda said no, i feel really bad, should i just go ? theres attraction there but she really bores me with her stories so not sure if i can stand it.
    Sorry bit short.


Comments

  • #2
    ash23
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,791 ✭✭✭ash23


    Do you think she likes you or do you think she just needs a date?

    if it's the former then no, don't go as she will think you like her too and it might all end in disaster, especially if drink is involved.

    If it's the latter then do her a favour and go with her. It's only one night which is nothing to you but is of great importance to her. But if you'll only be half assed about it then don't go (i.e. you'll have to do the tux, corsage, chocs for her ma, posing for photos etc).


  • #3
    dubdcugirly
    Closed Accounts Posts: 127 ✭✭dubdcugirly


    TBH the debs is one night and you wont be sitting around listening to her all night with all the stuff/other people around. If thats what is turning you off her the debs could be a perfect opportunity to see more elements of her - sure what have you got to lose!

    Also people can waffle on with stories as a nervous defense so I wouldnt be surprised if she calmed down and came out of her shell the more you get to know her!


  • #4
    Taltos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,830 ✭✭✭✭Taltos


    Tread carefully.

    If she likes you and asked you with the hopes of something more but you don't like here like that - then say No.

    If you though maybe do like here and can accept that her stories are maybe just nervousness (prob are) then maybe reconsider and say Yes.

    Otherwise just go alone - no harm there and have a laugh.

    I know her stories annoy you, they probably even annoy her, chances are she is just really nervous and is looking for a way to impress you. Maybe think about that a bit. Just be nice in however you let her down - just don't string her along.


  • #5
    Sir Ophiuchus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,035 ✭✭✭Sir Ophiuchus


    For the love of God do not take this girl unless you can be a gentleman about it on the night.

    I brought a girl to my debs who pretty much just hung out with all of her old friends all night (she'd left the school a year before) and ignored me. I still get irritated with her when I think about it.

    So: better not to go with her than to accept her out of pity and let her, consciously or subconsciously, know it.


  • #6
    opinion guy
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,001 ✭✭✭✭opinion guy


    Hmmm well in your situation I went. It didn't go so well in that I sobered up half way thru the night and couldn't keep up the pretense and we had a row and I pretty much ruined her night. Something I still feel bad about! Well not too bad many years later but I'd rather to have not done it!


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