Naked Pictures

LegacyUser

This is minor in the overall scheme of things, but it's been bugging me:

So a few months back I had a very drunken fling with a friend. During this, I took consensual naked pictures of her (she's standing/smiling/posing in them).

The next morning she basically did an 'I was really drunk last night, I can't remember anything that happened.' I know her well enough to know she'd say that - true or not - out of embarrassment.

She's not interested in me, but we've remained friends (in the same social circle). But I'm left with pictures which I'm not sure she even remembers me taking.

I can't decide whether to keep them or delete them. I suspect she'd want them deleted. But I'm certainly not going to bring the subject up - we've both entirely avoided mentioning the event.

On one hand, she def was into the pictures at time, and I'd like to keep them as mementos. Maybe slap a black box over half her face - on the off chance my laptop gets stolen or something like that, I wouldn't want them to end up on the internet.

OTOH - I don't actually ever look at them. I've even wanked to memories of the encounter multiple times, but never while looking at the pictures. And I have plenty of pictures of her dressed.

Opinions?

LegacyUser

I'd say if she was totally hammered she'd probably be completely mortified if she knew you still had those photos. The kind thing to do is delete them, having them on your computer is dangerous, I know some horror stories about personal details winding up being copied and distributed.

If she really is your buddy then delete them and never mention them again!

little lady

Delete them.

She was drunk when you took them and doesn't remember you taking them She is not interested in dating you so probably wouldn't want you to have pictures of her naked.

Do both her and yourself a favour and delete them.

ash23

Delete them. I do silly uninhibited things when drunk (never done that though...yet )and I would be mortified if someone had something like that as evidence.
If they did ever get out then box over her face or not, she'd still recognise herself and I doubt you'd ever be forgiven. Even if it was that your laptop was stolen. And women talk. You'd be known as the guy who puts intimate pictures of drunk women up on the internet, even if that isn't technically true.

petes

Delete.

Colonel_McCoy

Delete them, she was drunk and if they ended up on the net, think how she would feel

LegacyUser

Please delete them,

Hopefully you will find a nice girlfriend soon and you can get up to what ever kinky stuff you like, but old relationships that end should end forever, especially as you say you rarely speak anymore, it will be symbolic for you to let them go, you need new things to think sexually about not old stuff.

mjg

If you were happy to keep them (for whatever reason) you wouldn't have posted here looking for peoples opinions. Do yourself and the girl a favour and delete them.

kittenkiller

You should really really really really delete them!

minidazzler

Tell her you have them, ask does she want them. Delete them if she asks you to.

If she says keep them then put them on a flash drive in an encrypted file. Or at least Password protected. Your average person won't be able to get around that.

quank

I'm surprised there was even two sides to this. Just delete them.

meditraitor

Delete them and forget about it......

Miss Fluff

Put yourself in the same situation. While she consented at the time and it was a bit of naughty fun, I can put money on it that she doesn't remember them being taken so keeping them unbeknownst to her isn't really on tbh. Wouldn't you be mortified to know that pictures of you displaying her dangly bits were in her possession all this time? Just delete them.

LegacyUser

In a similar situation where I sent photos to a guy i was kinda seeing. Really hope he has deleted them since we're not in any way involved anymore but knowing guys im sure he hasnt. Really regret it though and hope he doesnt share them around. Delete them, im sure she would hate to think there were naked pics of her somewhere.

LegacyUser

I sent pics to a guy I was involved with before and absolutely regret it. I really really hope he deletes them since we're not in any way involved anymore but knowing guys he probably wont. I hate the thought that he might give them to someone else because any fond feelings he had for me are now gone. I would never do this again. Please spare this girl my agony and delete them, she doesnt need to even know they existed.

TheInquisitor

For the sake of being opposing to all the women on this forum im gonna say keep up. I don't really know why you'd keep them though if you don't even look at them. Actually no you should delete them you don't deserve them!Use it or loose it!

MyPeopleDrankTheSoup

send them to me for safekeeping, then delete them. it's the right thing to do

Miaireland

Delete them without a doubt.

Red Alert

Just delete them. This kind of thing will come back and bite you unexpectedly sometime if you keep them.

LegacyUser

OP here.

It looks like everyone says delete. I'd say I will eventually, for some reason I can't quite bring myself to do it yet. It's like binning a souvenir from a trip. Though I eventually bin most of those TBH, so I'll get rid of the pics too.

To the poster who asked how'd i feel if the situation was reversed - i think that's part of the problem. I'm actually a bit shameless - eg i think half my exes have naked pictures of me, my mate has a vid on his mobile of me doing the helicopter in a club, there's pics of me drunken streaking a festival campsite as a forfeit for a lost bet, etc. She was part of that campsite, so she's likely even seen those pictures of me.

I recognize that she wouldn't have the same lax attitude though, so I will delete them.

minidazzler

picstaken wrote: »

OP here.

It looks like everyone says delete. I'd say I will eventually, for some reason I can't quite bring myself to do it yet. It's like binning a souvenir from a trip. Though I eventually bin most of those TBH, so I'll get rid of the pics too.

To the poster who asked how'd i feel if the situation was reversed - i think that's part of the problem. I'm actually a bit shameless - eg i think half my exes have naked pictures of me, my mate has a vid on his mobile of me doing the helicopter in a club, there's pics of me drunken streaking a festival campsite as a forfeit for a lost bet, etc. She was part of that campsite, so she's likely even seen those pictures of me.

I recognize that she wouldn't have the same lax attitude though, so I will delete them.

You may as well ask her. Tell her you just found them, she might actually want them.

In the mean time any pics you do keep zip them in a Password protected folder using a compression program like 7zip. That way at least they are relatively safe.

Snowie

I've receved some pics of a female in the past I deleted them!
Felt it was wrong felt it was wrong and slightly weird to hold on to the pics....

kittenkiller

picstaken wrote: »

To the poster who asked how'd i feel if the situation was reversed - i think that's part of the problem. I'm actually a bit shameless...

Ok, how would you feel if it was your sister or your mum or something then?
Get rid asap OP, what if someone just happens upon them or sees a repeated hit on this thread and puts two and two together or something?
Ok these things might not happen, but how bad would you feel if they did and the pics ended up in the office or on the internet?

minidazzler

kittenkiller wrote: »

Ok, how would you feel if it was your sister or your mum or something then?
Get rid asap OP, what if someone just happens upon them or sees a repeated hit on this thread and puts two and two together or something?
Ok these things might not happen, but how bad would you feel if they did and the pics ended up in the office or on the internet?

That's a Cop out. Should he not watch pron because "what if his sister or mum"

I still stand by what I said, ask her about it. Some girls like having naked pics of themselves.

LegacyUser

pfft, there's nothing inherently wrong with keeping them, just safeguard them well - them ending up in the hands of another person, or worse, the internet is definitely really bad, but I don't see too much wrong with keeping them to yourself. Maybe burn them to a CD and put them in some obscure CD case hidden away somewhere.

It's a curiosity thing. I know if I happened to obtain naked pics of some of my female friends, I'd be inclined to keep them. I would oppose active voyeurism, but if it's something that just happened, I don't think that it's morally wrong to hang onto them.

If you don't trust yourself to safeguard them well enough, however, then just delete them.

kjl

forget the rest of the group here, I say keep them. Regardless of intoxication state she agreed to the pictures being taken.

There is a practice called stenography, this is where you can hide pictures in other pictures, the retrieve them with a password. Download a program off the internet, this should keep them pretty safe.

If someone found the hard drive, they could still get the pics off it even if the were deleted, so make sure you use a file shredder if you are going to delete them.

I still have pics of an ex, I deleted them in-front of her, but the recovered them later. Screw it, Nice to know if she ever messes with me I have something on her.

Zaph

kjl wrote: »

I still have pics of an ex, I deleted them in-front of her, but the recovered them later. Screw it, Nice to know if she ever messes with me I have something on her.

kjl, you've already received an infraction for an unhelpful post in this forum. This is your second, next time it'll be a ban.

Firetrap

Delete delete delete. It's unfair on the girl for you to have these nekkid photos of her which have the potential to be circulated in the wider world should your phone/laptop fall into the wrong hands. Surely it isn't that hard to find photos of other naked women if that's your thing? Your holding on to the photos reminds me of Georgie Burgess in The Snapper holding onto Sharon's knickers as a memento.

mayordenis

stick em on a usb drive or some such if you really do want to keep them - at least that's remove the potential of them getting it's definately a moral grey area though.

MyPeopleDrankTheSoup

georgiecasey wrote: »

send them to me for safekeeping, then delete them. it's the right thing to do

lolz, i can't believe i got an infraction for this! no sense of humour in the pi anyway

Gonzales

Man up- press delete. It's the big thing to do.

It's good for her & you'll feel better about yourself for being a decent human who knows whats right & does it.

Bottle_of_Smoke

picstaken wrote: »

So a few months back I had a very drunken fling with a friend. During this, I took consensual naked pictures of her (she's standing/smiling/posing in them).

If she was "very drunk" then it doesn't fit the legal description of consensual

OTOH - I don't actually ever look at them. I've even wanked to memories of the encounter multiple times, but never while looking at the pictures. And I have plenty of pictures of her dressed.

Find this very hard to believe. And the memento nonsense, get real, you have potentially life destroying material insecurely stored on your computer. Get rid of them.

You wouldn't have posted here if you thought it was morally ok.

Silverfish

georgiecasey wrote: »

lolz, i can't believe i got an infraction for this! no sense of humour in the pi anyway

No, because people come here for advice, and if we allowed every witty or hilarious reply, there would be 10 pages of people trying to outdo each other, and no actual advice.

I recommend After Hours.

Banned for a week, as per the charter.

kittenkiller

kjl wrote: »

I still have pics of an ex, I deleted them in-front of her, but the recovered them later. Screw it, Nice to know if she ever messes with me I have something on her.

Wow, what an untrustworthy person you are!

OP, the girl in question *is* someone's daughter/sister/mother whatever...
Not just something you banged one night.
If you don't have the balls to ask her about them you should delete them and make sure they're gone for good.

embermine

Delete them.

Johnnnybravo

I dont see why you even asked OP because Id say you will never delete them.

Personally I think its lousy to keep them and you should have just deleted them. Do you want to have them to hold over her in the future or something??

I think its nonsense that you even had to ask what would be the decent thing to do.

seahorse

This is pretty straightforward: There's the right thing to do and the pervy thing to do. If you're happy with fitting the description in option two then go ahead and keep them.

LegacyUser

I'm a girl (well woman actually!) and I can think of about four exes who have pics of me and I have pics of them, and that includes one ex who I had a bad break up with... doesn't bother me and I don't think any of them would show the photos around. Now I know a one-nighter is different but.... I wouldn't worry about it too much & I wouldn't go having an awkward conversation about it with her either. Just don't ever show them to anyone. Tbh I think it would be almost sweet/flattering if one of my exes still wanked at my pics. I'd be more insulted about a mate posting a drunken/ugly photo of me on facebook tbh... but maybe thats just me.

Toots

OP it sounds to me like you're sorta hoping that you'll get replies telling you that it's perfectly OK to keep them. Honestly, if you told this girl, do you think she'd say it was ok to keep them? I also agree with Bottle of Smoke, if she was 'very drunk' then the 'consensual' line begins to blur. If she genuinely doesn't remember it, then she might not see it that way. Best bet is delete them, no matter how well you try to hide them, they will somehow come back and bite you in the ass.

Overheal

Maybe its just me, but this sounds less about the photos themselves and what you think it means in regards to your current relationship/friendship with this girl. I think the fact that you can't bring yourself to delete them is really you just tearing yourself apart debating wether or not you might actually cop on and ask this girl out for a proper coffee or dinner sometime.

LegacyUser

I once rescued a mobile phone from a recycle bin and hundreds of somebodys text messages were in the phone. I read one or two and they were pretty private and potentially incriminating. I deleted them because I had better things to do.

Im just trying to highlight the danger of technology if your camera/phone ends up in the wrong hands. What happens if you die in an accident tomorrow and someone finds them?

Delete.

LegacyUser

OP here, I ended up deleting them.

I had decided to ask her about them - in a non-specific way - before doing anything. But, getting paranoid about them being accidentally found in the meantime, I cropped the pictures so her head was no longer in any of them, just her body.

But then, after cropping her head out, the pictures lost any attraction to me whatsoever, and I deleted them.

I am happy I deleted them, though I wish I had the balls to actually talk to her first.

I am a little concerned that I managed to work myself in the sudden paranoid of them being 'found' - despite the fact that I've never lost any computer/phone/usb key/etc in my life or been hacked or anything like that.