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  • 13-10-2009 4:03pm
    #1
    gayguy2009
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 70 ✭✭


    I've been in college about 4 weeks now and some days that I have are good and some are bad. One day i'd feel real happy and sociable, the next I feel depressed and a bit shy. I'm still having trouble dealing with my sexuality and I'm trying to find away to tell my friends. I can't seem to enjoy college because I still have this hanging over me. I don't want to go through like I did in secondary and hide who I am. But at the same time afraid some people will look at me differently. Only my best friend knows im gay and i feel wierd talkin bout it to him.


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  • #2
    Oh The Humanity
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,324 ✭✭✭Oh The Humanity


    Hey, why not start small and let one person know. One that you trust and are sure likes you.

    From what I hear a lot of times when gay people come out their friends seem to say 'oh we knew that' and it wasn't such a big deal as the person feared.

    People might treat you differently but it won't be all bad. Some might treat you better, some worse or maybe it won't be such a big deal at all.

    If you don't feel comfortable discussing your sexuality then don't, you don't have to. Not all heterosexual people like to discuss theirs either. People are all different.

    Anyway, I hope it works out for you. Take it slowly and carefully. All the best!


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    The up and down buzz you have going on is characteristic of mild anxiety or depression, probably because you have a lot to deal with in being in a whole new place, compounded with the fact that you feel you are 'hiding' something.

    Listen, college is one of the most open minded places you can be. You might never again experience a place that is such a melting pot of colours, religions, ideals, beliefs... and sexual preferences. You are lucky to be there right now, so don't be anxious about it. In my experience, most people who "come out" are quite obviously gay anyway. My brother admitted it at the age of 24 and I was like "wow really??... I NEVER would have guessed! Ha ha.

    Any friends who have a problem with you after this are not your friends anyway. Sure, there's going to be haters but fk them, you have nothing to apologise for.

    If its anyway a large college, suss out is there a gay society, there's usually one in the bigger colleges. They'll give you help and support and advise and you'll meet like minded people there, (whatever that means).

    And take your time. You are not answerable to anyone.


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