Worried about sister's pregnancy

LegacyUser

My sister recently got pregnant. It was planned, she wanted a baby, she is in her late thirties and has a long-term boyfriend, they live in a fantastic house in a lovely part of the country and they both have well-paid jobs.
"Sounds perfect" I hear you say. I know but since I heard the news I have been overwhelmed with worry about it. I keep thinking something will go wrong (I don't even want to put down in print what that might be, I don't want to tempt fate).
I know it's ridiculous, thousands of healthy babies are born every day and there's no reason to be worried (her doctor says everything is fine so far).
I have always had a strong pessimistic streak, I always expect the worst. Every time I had to sit an exam or do anything challenging I always expected to be a failure.
I think this is a manifestation of that. I worry about my parents getting old, maybe becoming senile, stuck in a wheelchair, suffering.
I have these thoughts from time to time, usually before I got to sleep at night (which keeps me awake) or else first thing in the morning. I toss and turn and try my best to block them out and focus on something positive.
I don't have a job at the moment which doesn't help but I am not short of money thank God.
The funny thing is I am not even that close to my sister, we get on OK but that's it.
I don't ever want kids myself, I don't hate them or anything, I just can't see why anyone would want to have them. Sounds terrible I know. It's her (and her boyfriend's) own decision and best of luck to them but I just don't think it's a good decision.

LegacyUser

i felt so happy after first hearing that my sister was pregnant. then i felt a bit worried. not overly worried but i just didnt know what to expect. but i just put my feelings aside and focussed on helping her with anything she needed and seeing she was getting on ok.

BroomBurner

Perhaps you're just a little over-sensitive and/or too introverted. Instead of expending energy on worrying, turn it in to something positive, like keeping a baby book or something for her.

Try to think positively as she may be able to pick up on your negativity, and harsh as it might sound, try not to think about yourself and why you do/think things too much.

LegacyUser

BroomBurner wrote: »

Perhaps you're just a little over-sensitive and/or too introverted. Instead of expending energy on worrying, turn it in to something positive, like keeping a baby book or something for her.

Try to think positively as she may be able to pick up on your negativity, and harsh as it might sound, try not to think about yourself and why you do/think things too much.

There's no chance of that, we don't come into contact much and have never discussed her pregnancy. I am a worrier by nature; I worry about myself, about those close to me but at the same time I am, like you say, introverted and see things only from my own perspective.
I am trying to change that though, maybe it will happen with age. It is weird though.

Chinafoot

Quincy99 wrote: »

Sounds terrible I know. It's her (and her boyfriend's) own decision and best of luck to them but I just don't think it's a good decision.

For you. Not a good decision for you.

Don't put your own expectations/standards on your sister and her relationship. Without wanting to be harsh, your sisters pregnancy has absolutely nothing to do with you. You're not close, you don't speak often. This is your own issue and you should let it go when you do see your sister. Don't ruin her happiness with your negativity towards her decision to take a different route in life from your own.