Dirty Talk

LegacyUser

Hi guys.

This might be a bit of a weird question but my new boyfriend has started talking dirty to me whilst we're having sex and I wouldnt normally have a problem with it, in fact I quite like it but I just wanted to check with the guys if what he was saying is pretty normal for a lad and if this would be a turn on for most guys?

He just basically asks me whilst we're having sex, who owns you baby? who's the boss? who's p****y does yours belong ta, does it want me, no one else? Your mine, I own you dont i? that kinda thing, is this weird?? Im up for trying anything and if this is pretty normal, then any idea's on what I can say back to him cos all im saying now is yeahh..

Sorry I know this is probably too much info.

kittenkiller

As long as his possessive attitude doesn't spill out into everyday life and it's not distracting you, just go for it!
There are so many things that can go wrong in a relationship, why let a little thing bother you?

Best of luck.

minidazzler

Personally that's not my sex talk, mine's more vulgar.


I suspect this is the kind of thing he says when he is on top? Sounds like he wants to be the dominant one really.

But it's not overly weird, just a little possessive in his terminology.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the feedback guys...

I dont really have a problem with it and its definetly not something i would split up with him for but what should I say back to him? I dont have a clue!! I think he does get disappointed with me just by saying yeah all the time!

Nevyn

Talk to him about it, find out what type of responses you are comfortable with and which do it for you both.

minidazzler

unregistered wrote: »

Thanks for the feedback guys...

I dont really have a problem with it and its definetly not something i would split up with him for but what should I say back to him? I dont have a clue!! I think he does get disappointed with me just by saying yeah all the time!

I think you should take over one night, tell him to STFU, then start saying crap like, "who owns this ****? Who's gonna fcuk you raw?" Stuff like that!!!


If responding to his questions and he asks "Who's the Boss? again" Say Shaft please:P

LegacyUser

unregistered wrote: »

Thanks for the feedback guys...

I dont really have a problem with it and its definetly not something i would split up with him for but what should I say back to him? I dont have a clue!! I think he does get disappointed with me just by saying yeah all the time!

This is not realy dirty talk it's about power and confidence, and it's all fine perfectly normal, health stuff so don't worry about it.

He wants to think you want him and no one else.

My P**y wants you.
Only you can give it to me like I need it.
I'm yours, take me now like only you know how.

Throw in a few
Don't stop
F**k me harder
You know what I need, give it to me

LegacyUser

Ha ha that was hilarious minidazzler, thanks for that.. Now every time he says that, I'll probably burst out laughing at the Shaft comment.

RossFixxxed

"Here I am... ROSS you like a hurricaaaaaneeeeee-ah"

Hmm not I'm not good at it at all. In all honesty if you're confident throw some stuff in there that you like, or sit down and talk about it together and find some fun boundaries!

LegacyUser

My OH would probably have a seisure from laughing if I started on with that craic but I have heard much much worse from (seemingly) normal people so I reckon it's grand if you are. Roll with it!

Liam Byrne

It'd put me off, that's for sure.....particularly the "ownership" bull****.....

kenbrady

Liam Byrne wrote: »

It'd put me off, that's for sure.....particularly the "ownership" bull****.....

It's fine once in a while, but if it's every time you have sex it would get boring/annoying after a while, could be some underlying issues with intimacy

Nevyn

Different stroke for different strokes, what will turn one person off will turn another person on, as long as the couple are ok with it themselves that is what matters.

mbren

RossFixxxed wrote: »

"sit down and talk about it together and find some fun boundaries!

Of all things, don't sit down and talk about it! Thats too clinical!
Make it spontaneous when in the act and use trial and error!
If he doesnt like soemthing, don't say it again!

kittenkiller

mbren wrote: »

Of all things, don't sit down and talk about it! Thats too clinical!
Make it spontaneous when in the act and use trial and error!
If he doesnt like soemthing, don't say it again!

I dunno, trial and error could backfire horribly, don't you think?

If you have a good relationship with someone, you should be able to sit down and have a giggle about these things in order to avoid any major disasters.

Ps. Has the Churchill dog ruined anyone else's sex life? I can't say "Oh yes" anymore without thinking of him!

krudler

Its fun but wouldnt do it all the time, its nice to have intimate sex as well, sometimes you want to make love, but its fun to fcuk too as long as its nothing too crazy I doubt anyone would get too offended

Heilixc

You should be careful of anybosy who is too possessive. I had a boyfriend like that once for a short time. All very well until he came home with a hatchet under his coat for no apparent reason. I got the hell out and never went back!

Nevyn

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Have a nice day.
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DigiGal

unregistered wrote: »

Hi guys.

This might be a bit of a weird question but my new boyfriend has started talking dirty to me whilst we're having sex and I wouldnt normally have a problem with it, in fact I quite like it but I just wanted to check with the guys if what he was saying is pretty normal for a lad and if this would be a turn on for most guys?

He just basically asks me whilst we're having sex, who owns you baby? who's the boss? who's p****y does yours belong ta, does it want me, no one else? Your mine, I own you dont i? that kinda thing, is this weird?? Im up for trying anything and if this is pretty normal, then any idea's on what I can say back to him cos all im saying now is yeahh..

Sorry I know this is probably too much info.

If you like it why should you care if anybody else thinks its normal. Your sex life is your won business so unless you are planning on letting others watch just go with the flow and do what turns you on.

I mean how do you think this would sound "sorry OH a bunch of strangers on the net told me its not ok to dirty talk so we cant do it anymore"

prinz

unregistered wrote: »

who's p****y does yours belong ta...

Heh. Is this what he actually says? If it is there are a few things you could say back

Liam Byrne wrote: »

It'd put me off, that's for sure.....particularly the "ownership" bull****.....

+1. Massive turn off for me too. If he was just into dirty talk sometimes and varied it up a little..then whatever.. but the constant need to impose himself would ring a little bell IMO anyway.

LegacyUser

Hey

OP here..

Thanks for all your comments. Digigirl? I was only asking if this was the norm for most lads and if they'd find this a turn on, just their opinion or views on it is all i was after. OH and maybe a little feedback on what I should say back to him! Im still guna go with it cos i kinda like it but yeah your right, if the possessiveness does spill out onto everyday life then i'll need to take control.

Oh and just to let you know, i took your advice kittenkiller and said this morning whilst we were having sex - f*** me harder and he sent me a text later saying - "oh by the way, after you said that this morning, i loved you a little bit more" not bad eh for first time!! ha

Thanks guys!!

kittenkiller

Good on you OP!
Have fun