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I need new friends!!!

Peterpower · 2009-10-11 03:09:08

Hey, I dont know if this is a rant or if Im looking for advice! I only have a few friends which I kept on from college but its coming to a stage where I wonder why I ever bothered keeping in contact with them. At the end of the day they are my "group" of friends but the way they act sometimes makes me think I am just…

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Peterpower

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Hey,

I dont know if this is a rant or if Im looking for advice! I only have a few friends which I kept on from college but its coming to a stage where I wonder why I ever bothered keeping in contact with them.

At the end of the day they are my "group" of friends but the way they act sometimes makes me think I am just hanging round with them for convenience sake rather than them being my real friends!

Im just wondering at the age of 30 how you go about making new friends who you can hang round with, go to the pub or just call round to them to just hang out rather than just clutching straws.

Are they worth the effort or just too much effort!

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#2 11-10-2009 3:15am

Peterpower

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Thanks guys..just really looking for suggestions how I could meet new friends in normal surroundings. Not exactly one for the friends online ads.

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#3 11-10-2009 3:22am

Peterpower

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not really a response to my question Donkey but thanks anyway

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#4 11-10-2009 3:26am

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Peterpower wrote: »

Hey,

I dont know if this is a rant or if Im looking for advice! I only have a few friends which I kept on from college but its coming to a stage where I wonder why I ever bothered keeping in contact with them.

At the end of the day they are my "group" of friends but the way they act sometimes makes me think I am just hanging round with them for convenience sake rather than them being my real friends!

Im just wondering at the age of 30 how you go about making new friends who you can hang round with, go to the pub or just call round to them to just hang out rather than just clutching straws.

Are they worth the effort or just too much effort!

Find what you're interested in first. A great thing about meeting and making friends in your late 20s and 30s is that it usually happens as a result of shared interest where, unlike school, you know much more about who you are. So, basically get into stuff you like and the friendships will follow.

This could include joining your local sports club or learning a new language, music instrument, or joining a hillwalking club etc.

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#5 11-10-2009 3:27am

minidazzler

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The only way to actually make friends past college is to actually go to clubs and such. It's not like school where you are lumped with people and they are your best friends.

So Join a club or Society that you are interested in and really go at it.

It will be daunting but it's one of the only ways if Online isn't for you.

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#6 11-10-2009 11:16am

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Club is probably the worst place to meet anyone...too loud to talk to anyone. If you like sport join a team. Even here on boards there is a Thread for free agents. I think football or any other sport is the best way to meet new friends. My 2 best friends are my best friends from playing football. We were passing by there estate one day and they were playing ball and we joined them for a match and its gone on from there.

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