Her boobs are small

LegacyUser

I know I'm going to sound like an arrogant and shallow pr*ck here so I'm prepared for some abuse. I started seeing a new girl recently. She's lovely, intelligent, pretty, funny, everything. BUT, she is quite small chested, I'd say an A cup, or perhaps a B. I'm very much a boob man and I like them big, I'd say all my exes would have been at least a D or E cup, my last girlfriend was a DD and I loved how they looked in a bra or a low cut dress. It wasn't why I was with her or anything, but it was a very big turn on for me. When I'm with this new girl, the sex is good but I find myself wishing her boobs were bigger. Obviously I would never say that to her and there's nothing she can do, but I can't help how I feel. Should I just end it or is there a way to get over this?

Nettie

Are you serious?! Can't you just look past the small boobs?

John Mason

yes, you should end it now

LegacyUser

Yes end it right now and do this poor girl a favour....... she deserves a hell of a lot better

So when the big chested girls boobs get a bit saggy or head south after childbirth, will you feel the same way???

Ive seen it all now

e04bf099

How disappointing for you. You know there are girls in Africa that are so starved that their boyfriends dream of an A or B cup. For shame!

apsalar

Yes, end it. You don't care enough about her to love her as she is.

Tell her it's not working and find a bigger chested girl. Just make sure you don't imply/say anything about the poor girl's breasts while you're at it. It wouldn't be fair to knock her confidence like that.

LegacyUser

That's very narrow minded, why were you attracted to her in the first place (physically)? Maybe focus on those aspects of her and forget what shes "lacking".

Imagine she thought something of yours was too small for her liking and all her previous boyfriends were bigger... not so nice eh?

LegacyUser

regardless of the op being a 'meanie' or not I've lost count of the number of serious discussions women have concerning men and how their partner is not well endowed and how they find sex unsatisifing etc etc, and women are a lot more blunt and harsh than the OP has been here.

I can see double standards at play, because the op doesnt find small boobs attractive he is being slaughtered, thats his person preference and he is free to pick and choose his partners based on this.

OP I would make your decision as to if you are happy with the girl as a person and as a bed partner. I would say though that if I was you I would think very long and hard about finishing with a girl who is in your own words "lovely, intelligent, pretty, funny, everything"

That sounds like a special lady, as you fall in love with her the feelings of love will make you see her as the very sexy person that all people are. Everyone is beautiful, we just need a bond with them to learn to love them for what they are.

No one is perfect, but your lady sounds fantastic.

Best of luck with it.

DontYaThink

I actually found this quite upsetting, being small chested myself.

It's for this very reason that I sometimes feel paranoid in front of my boyfriend even though he says it doesnt bother him in the slightest and we've been together for 2 years.

If this is a real issue for you you are never going to see past it and should just end it with this girl now. She deserves better.

I can actually see you being one of those boyfriends who if you were to stay with her for a few years, would insist on her having some sort of surgery.

LegacyUser

I'm a boob man too and my lass is not at all well endowed in that dept. But I love them anyway, cause they are attached to her! And I'm mad about her.

OP, do you want to go out with a GIRL or simply a pair of large tits? Cause if a massive pair of tits is all you want out of the relationship, then you shouldn't have a problem replacing this girl who, doesn't seem to live up to the mark.

If you want a girl, then you must first acknowlege how lucky you are to have such a fantastic one already, and then accept that she has a small rack as part of the package.

Wagon

areuforreal wrote: »

Yes end it right now and do this poor girl a favour....... she deserves a hell of a lot better

So when the big chested girls boobs get a bit saggy or head south after childbirth, will you feel the same way???

Ive seen it all now

It's a personal preference. He likes the big boobs and it's a big turn on for him. I've been rejected by girls cos ive got long hair. Doesn't bother me. It's no different really. If a girl told me my nose was too big and she doesn't find me attractive because of it well fair enough.

This bloke is the same. It's not his fault he doesn't find her as attractive because of the small boobs. It happens. I really don't think he should be written off as a prick.

e04bf099 wrote: »

How disappointing for you. You know there are girls in Africa that are so starved that their boyfriends dream of an A or B cup. For shame!

Class

Actually, ill also add OP that you wearn't making the best decision when deciding to go out with her in the first place if this is that important to you. If you think this will remain an issue, break it off.

Wibbs

Wagon wrote: »

Actually, ill also add OP that you wearn't making the best decision when deciding to go out with her in the first place if this is that important to you. If you think this will remain an issue, break it off.

That's the problem I have with this. OK so he likes big breasts. Fine, that's his bag. I don't really go for big breasts myself particularly so if a woman was sporting a pair that looked like a dead heat in a hot air balloon race, I could hardly complain if I was going out with her. I made the decision. Its hardly like a personality quirk you discover after a few months. As Wagon said, if this is an issue break up with her.

Toots

I agree with Wagon and Wibbs the OP is being honest here, he can't control what he does and doesn't find attractive. He's obviously very attracted to this girl's looks and personality aside from the boobs, however if it's a case that this is going to become more and more of an issue, something that you can't get over, it would probably be best to end it. Just for heavens sake, don't mention the size of her boobs as a reason in the breakup.

LegacyUser

e04bf099 wrote: »

How disappointing for you. You know there are girls in Africa that are so starved that their boyfriends dream of an A or B cup. For shame!

Jesus Christ what an ignorant thing to say!

OP, I agree with the others, if this is something that is really effecting your relationship with her then break up now before feelings etc start to come into play.

shellyboo

Break up with her and learn your lesson - this is a deal-breaker for you, don't be dating any more small-chested girls.

Darthhoob

fair enough you dont like small boobs, everyone has a personal taste. but why go out with her in the first place if her boobs were not big enough? now you have a relationship and people are going to get hurt because you can't seem to see the things that you liked about her enough to date her over the fact her boobs are not as big as you would like. that is what is shallow, the fact that you seem to want to be with a pair of tits and not her....despite her being pretty, intelligent, funny etc etc

maybe you are just not the right man for her

entropi

So you say you started seeing her recently, yet you knew at the time by looking at her obviously, that she had a small chest...why even bother starting something when you will more than likely know that her cup size will be a problem for you.

You like big boobs, then try seeing big chested women and not put the ones who dont deserve you through all the crap that goes with break-ups.

LegacyUser

Yes you should break up...breast size has NOUGHT to do with a relationship..

My gf has very small breasts...I couldnt care less..she's a fab girl in every way, sex is fantastic, we're great friends and we get on great together.. why would I be concerned about her breast size??

Do the decent thing and let her find someone who values her for 'all of her'...I bet she would DIE if she knew you had posted this...very disrespectful !!

eviltwin

Some guys just prefer bigger boobs - nothing wrong with that - but I cant understand why you would date someone who has an obvious "flaw"

It doesnt make sense to me

Okay if your just looking for some good sex its fine to go with your preferred type but if its a long term thing then body type should be irrelevant

Hopefully as a relationship develops the physical side of things becomes less obvious and you focus on the person themselves rather than what they have going on physically

And lets face it looks never last anyway..we all get older and things change. Do the decent thing and break up with her if you are that shallow but please dont hurt her confidence by mentioning any of this

seahorse

I think it's unfair to lambaste the OP because of a sexual preference over which he has no control. It sounds to me like his gf was attractive to him in many other ways and it was only over the course of time he realised he couldn’t look past the small boobs. It's not a feeling he can help and it doesn't make him shallow.

OP, if you decide to exit the relationship over this just be sure not to tell her the real reason. Usually I'm all for honesty but in this situation I don’t think it'd be best to be truthful as it would likely leave the girl with a hang-up about her body.

As far as breasts are concerned, I think small natural breasts are a hell of a lot sexier than big surgically-enhanced plastic ones. I think it's an awful pity what some women are driven to doing to their bodies out of these type of insecurities, so please don’t say anything to provoke those sort of feelings in her.

Bottle_of_Smoke

I think you'll really regret breaking up with her over this.

Pretty_Pistol

Break up with her if it is bothering you so much. Everyone has things they look for in a partner and it seems large boobs is one of yours. Take it as a learning curve.

cruizer101

OP its srtikes me as strange that you have got as far as you have if her boob size is that big an issue, if you weren't really attracted why did you start going out.

Also if she is as good as you say in other aspects maybe its worth your while trying to overcome this feeling and accept her as she is, no one is perfect and if her one flaw in your eyes is her boob size then im my opinion you are onto a winner. Would you prefer if she had big ones butyou didn't have the same connection.

Also, this is how the OP feels no need to give out to him personally I prefer smaller boobs, its just what i prefer i can't help it. Also I'm small and I know this would be a turn off for many women but there would be nowhere near the same reaction its just accepted lots of girls aren't attracted to smaller men, so why can't this be accepted too, it is more or less the same thing.

Ann22

Maybe you will fall for her and after a while the boobs thing won't even matter but if you continue to see them as frustratingly small, end it 'cos you may start to drop hints unintentionally about them. Her confindence could be ruined for life.

LegacyUser

OP i think you should end it if it is that big a deal for you. I am with a man who is also a big boob person and i feel totally inadequate and very self conscious because of this and in some ways i do wish he never went near me.......i do have other assets
you cannot get away from the fact that physical attraction is usually first for men and usually fairly important for them too.
it always concerns me that being with a boob person would be doubly stressful if i got breast cancer or anything.......

104494431

YTG77 wrote: »

I know I'm going to sound like an arrogant and shallow pr*ck here so I'm prepared for some abuse. I started seeing a new girl recently. She's lovely, intelligent, pretty, funny, everything. BUT, she is quite small chested, I'd say an A cup, or perhaps a B. I'm very much a boob man and I like them big, I'd say all my exes would have been at least a D or E cup, my last girlfriend was a DD and I loved how they looked in a bra or a low cut dress. It wasn't why I was with her or anything, but it was a very big turn on for me. When I'm with this new girl, the sex is good but I find myself wishing her boobs were bigger. Obviously I would never say that to her and there's nothing she can do, but I can't help how I feel. Should I just end it or is there a way to get over this?

Always a bad way to go. I've gone out with girls with big tits and girls with small tits and the problem is that once you get beyond size etc it comes down to the shape or the nipples or whatever else.

At the end of the day it comes down to what you find attractive. If you find yourself less attracted to her because of this then it's a real problem and you should go find someone that you're attracted to.

Liam Byrne

OP - I know someone who has HUGE boobs but is a complete tosser and a bitch and will milk all the spare cash you have on shopping sprees....

From your post I reckon you'd prefer her ?