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should i make a move?

  • 10-10-2009 6:43am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    OK so basically I have never asked a guy out in my life before, not because i'm so amazingly attractive that i think they should come to me, but i just don't have the balls (in every sense). Anyway, I'm 28 and i'm really smitten with this guy in my night course. I have so far established that he is in his 40's and single.....I *think* he might like me too but I'm so not sure if he is just really nice. I was struggling with a project we were given and he came to my house and spent 5 hours sorting it out for me,we have been messaging quite a bit and i think it's flirting but i'm so afraid i'm misreading the signs. He's always offering to help me with my work, whether it be collecting stuff or using his own contacts etc and he doesn't seem to be as helpful to anyone else. I kind of feel that I always wait for guys to make the move but in this case I'm not sure that he will, given the age difference etc, he might be afraid. But I would be so mortified if i was totally off the mark with this, the course has over another year left so it would make life quite awkward/embarrassing. Any ideas?


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  • #2
    ash23
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    Make a move. Just do it in a sneaky way :D

    Find something you need done (or make something up!).
    When he does it for you, be soooooo grateful and offer to buy him a drink some night after your night course.

    If he asks others along or says no, probably not interested.
    He'll probably say yes, so off ye go, flirt like mad and see what happens. If it goes well, then at the end of the night say to him you had a lovely time and you'd love to do it again sometime, maybe dinner some evening. If he doesn't ask you out after that then give up. But if he's anyway interested he will.

    And hey presto, you've asked him out without really asking him out! :P


  • #3
    zxcvbnm1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 422 ✭✭zxcvbnm1


    ash23 wrote: »
    Make a move. Just do it in a sneaky way :D

    Find something you need done (or make something up!).
    When he does it for you, be soooooo grateful and offer to buy him a drink some night after your night course.

    If he asks others along or says no, probably not interested.
    He'll probably say yes, so off ye go, flirt like mad and see what happens. If it goes well, then at the end of the night say to him you had a lovely time and you'd love to do it again sometime, maybe dinner some evening. If he doesn't ask you out after that then give up. But if he's anyway interested he will.

    And hey presto, you've asked him out without really asking him out! :P


    Bang on. Perfect.

    If you ask him straight out it could be awkward alright for both parties.

    o ya - get him todo something for you and then offer to buy him a drink. You can even do it by test or something afterwards if it is easier.

    Personaly any uy that spends 5 hours helpin someone is interested i reckon. He's probably delihted gien you age !


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