is this a date or just friendly

LegacyUser

hi everyone, id appreciate some opinions on this

basically, on a night out a few weeks ago, i met a guy (mr x) who is a relative of a work colleague of mine (i dont know this work guy particularly well, have only spoken to him once or twice).

i got on great with x, chatted away all night etc. at the end of teh night, he said he'd be back in ireland in a few weeks (lives in england) and would love to meet up, if i was interested, so i said yes. he didnt ask for my number, said he'd get my email address from his relative and let me know when he was going to be around. he gave me akiss on teh cheek and that was teh end of it.

then, yesterday, my workmate asked me for my email address, said x had asked him to get it for him, so i gave it to him. an hour later i had an email form x saying he was over for teh weekend with friends, they were planning on heading out for a meal and drinks and he would love to meet me again, so said to let him know if i was free. he gave me his irish mobile no. i emailed back, said i would like to meet and asked whether he was thinking of fri or sat night. i gave him my number. so he replied saying he'd ring later.

so, he rang a while ago. we had a bit of chitchat, then, he said that they were planning on dinner and drinks, and where would i like to go etc. he also asked if id like to bring along a friend?! as teh conversation went on, he said that after dinner if i wanted to he and i could drift away and do out own thing after the dinner.

now, i dont know whats in his mind. is he just being super friendly (like he said "i promised id email you so i did") and including me, and including my friends, or is he interested in osmething happening with me. did he mention us drifting off on our own because thats what he wants, or because hes genuinely concermed that i'll be overwhelmed with his friends there, none of whom i know.

ideas/opinions please!

shellyboo

He's interested. He wants to go on a date with you while he's here, but he already had plans - so he's including you, making you comfortable by telling you to bring a friend, and letting you know he wants it to be a date by saying you can head off alone afterwards.

Tbh, I don't see how he could make it any clearer. He's definitely interested.

minidazzler

Shellyboo is right I would think.

But on the issue of your friend, I think he wants you to bring one in the hope she might hook up with one of his friends. (I know I play it like that from time to time.)

Gone Drinking

minidazzler wrote: »

But on the issue of your friend, I think he wants you to bring one in the hope she might hook up with one of his friends. (I know I play it like that from time to time.)

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ash23

Totally interested. Thats fairly obvious.
Just, if you are bringing a friend, bring someone who is fairly easy going and who won't go into hysterics if you abandon her to head off into the sunset with Mr X.
Warn her that this is likely. Bring a single buddy in case he happens to have a nice single friend too

boarddotie

Yes a wing woman is definitely needed in this sitation just in case it goes Pete Tong with Mr X (not that it will of course).

Good luck and let us know how it goes!:cool:

seraphimvc

if only OP can kinda kidding saying something like 'i asked my friend and my friend's reply is asking you that do you really want a stranger to tag along in our 1st dinner?what do you think?',and take his response from there you will know if he is interested or just being 'supernice'...:D if he didnt get the hint but still saying 'ya,sure why not?',he probably has no balls or is a total dumb.

it was my experience tho...so anyway OP goodluck and tell us how it goes!

davmol

Someones gona get some!!

LegacyUser

well, it was a date!!

we had arranged to meet at the restaurant, when i got there he was there alone and his friends joined us maybe ten mins later. we all went to the pub after dinner for one, then his friends disappeared to another pub, leaving us alone.

he came back to mine, we got a bit naughty but not too bad!
met his friends again for lunch today and meeting them all for dinner again tonight.

me=very happy!

thanks everyone for advice