Dynamics of a relationship?

xcarriex

Hi guys,

Im just looking for some advice/opinions on how to handle a situation,

I have been seen this guy for 2 months, we were flirting txting etc for about a month beforehand and i wasnt really into him like that, i agreed to go out as friends and had the best time and it just clicked we have been getting closer and closer ever since, im crazy about him, but since Friday things have been different,

What happened was he told my best friend that he was falling in love with me.. we havent even discussed been boyfriend and girlfriend! We spoke about it the next day and he agreed he said it out of drunkness.. but it was how he was feeling and he did love me..... now im crazy about the guy but im not going to tell him something i do not feel and we had a great chat and everything came out he said he wasnt going to force me to feel something, but that he couldnt change his feelings, and he was happy to continue as we were,

Now last night i went over for a bit after work was feeling so down and he cheered me up and there was that bubbly feeling that i always get after been with him when i got home he txt me asking did i love him yet and i just repeated what i had at the weekend,

Sorry for droning on but my question is this have a ruined the dynamics of the relationship by admitting i wasnt 'in love'? Will he just think im stringing him along? cuz im crazy about him, but i wanna take it slow and enjoy it!

RossFixxxed

cuz im crazy about him, but i wanna take it slow and enjoy it!

Tell him this part! If it's a big deal to him then it can not hurt to talk about it!

can i be frank

xcarriex wrote: »

Hi guys,

Im just looking for some advice/opinions on how to handle a situation,

I have been seen this guy for 2 months, we were flirting txting etc for about a month beforehand and i wasnt really into him like that, i agreed to go out as friends and had the best time and it just clicked we have been getting closer and closer ever since, im crazy about him, but since Friday things have been different,

What happened was he told my best friend that he was falling in love with me.. we havent even discussed been boyfriend and girlfriend! We spoke about it the next day and he agreed he said it out of drunkness.. but it was how he was feeling and he did love me..... now im crazy about the guy but im not going to tell him something i do not feel and we had a great chat and everything came out he said he wasnt going to force me to feel something, but that he couldnt change his feelings, and he was happy to continue as we were,

Now last night i went over for a bit after work was feeling so down and he cheered me up and there was that bubbly feeling that i always get after been with him when i got home he txt me asking did i love him yet and i just repeated what i had at the weekend,

Sorry for droning on but my question is this have a ruined the dynamics of the relationship by admitting i wasnt 'in love'? Will he just think im stringing him along? cuz im crazy about him, but i wanna take it slow and enjoy it!

no not at all!!! he knows he was probaly just drunk, that doesnt mean you wont fall in love with him or hell be waiting for you to say it! it seems your a great couple already dont be worryin

hollis12

thats what i was saying in a another thread and you demonstrated it beautifully, it doesnt take a initial spark to fall head over heels with someone and get a great connection!, hell be grand with it, the only thing that affects the dynamics of a relationship is thinking too much about it.

shellyboo

You don't need to tell him you love him, but you DO need to tell him you like him as more than a friend - by the sounds of things, he'd be pretty chuffed with that.

I don't really understand why you're pretending to just want to be friends when you fancy him and he fancies you? Sounds like a terrible waste of time and happiness to me.

xcarriex

Hi Guys,

Ah he knows i want more, i have told him that, i was just thinking he might feel like im stringing him along, i thought that if i didnt feel what he did it the relationship wouldnt be the same, i put in the same amt of effot and time and its not one sided in any way, i just wondered if it could affect it, he is a great guy and ive a tendancy to go running in with guns blazing and then having these stupidly high expectations that no man nor woman could ever fill, and this is a first for me, i guess i needed some impartial advice

Thanks Guys!

shellyboo

Oh, ok, so you are actually going out with him? Why don't you tell him that while you're not in love with him yet, you're having a great time and that you're mad about him. Maybe think about making at an official bf/gf thing... methinks he's just looking for reassurance that you're really into him.

The "do you love me yet" thing - it's kinda cute! But could get stale really fast. Make it clear to him that you just want to take it slow, and that when you do fall for him, he'll be the first to know about it.