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Farting in Sleep

  • 08-10-2009 9:54am
    #1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Ok this might not be as important as other PIs in here but im so embarrassed. Everytime i stay in my boyfriends house i fart in my sleep- i know this because i have woken myself up with it so many times, that's how loud it is! He hasnt said anything about it but im pretty sure he has been awake a good few of the times it happened...Does anyone have this problem and how do i prevent it?

    So Embarassed.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 282 ✭✭Clseeper


    I wouldn't worry too much. We all know women actually do fart too :D

    Is this all the time or only sometimes? I notice I start farting a lot when I eat certain food. Like peanuts for example. Maybe try and identify if there's something setting you off.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 68,317 ✭✭✭✭seamus


    You're human, you fart. You have no control over farting in your sleep any more than you can control what you dream about. Accept that this is normal and nothing to be embarrassed about.

    Make a joke of it if you can - accuse your boyfriend (in a joking way) of farting so loudly in his sleep that he woke you up. Then he'll say that you do the same thing and you'll see how much of a non-issue it is for him and you can get over it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 21,191 ✭✭✭✭Latchy


    Pity you couldn't wave the duvet around a bit after you fart OP ,nothing worse than a trapped fart under the bebclothes but your asleep so it's not your fault ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 751 ✭✭✭Colonel_McCoy


    Its natural dont worry about it, he is doing it do! Its not as if you are doing it on purpose!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    First time I slept with my now wife I farted when asleep.

    She thought it was cute.

    Still together 11 years on!


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 6,414 ✭✭✭kraggy


    I'm a guy and it wouldn't bother me. I've gone out with people in the past and actually used to mess with them and occasionally fart in their face and they'd do the same to me. I stress it was occasional thing :)

    It's something that has to come out whether you're asleep or not.

    Don't worry too much about it. If he's a decent lad at all, he'll not mind.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 757 ✭✭✭milod


    Don't worry about it, most guys think farts are hilarious, so long as you don't drop one in front of his mates...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Thanks for the replies..maybe next time i wake myself up doing it (so disgusting) i'll just make a joke out of it and hope for the best..


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 16,801 ✭✭✭✭Gary ITR


    That's gas


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Onkle behave.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 12,401 ✭✭✭✭Anti


    Onkle wrote: »
    That's gas


    good one :rolleyes:

    @OP Dont worry about it, its a natural thing. I'm sure if it bothered him he would have said something. Most adults in a grown up relationship can fart around each other, and even make a joke out of it.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 78,577 ✭✭✭✭Victor


    Go for a run or do stretching exercises before going to bed to get as much of it out of you as possible.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 13,713 ✭✭✭✭Novella


    OP, farting is nothing to be mortified about. Everyone does it and I'm sure your boyfriend doesn't think you're super-human. As other posters have said, bring it up with him, if you want, in a joking manner or whatever and that should put your mind at ease. He likes you for who you are, he wants to be with you, that's why you're his girlfriend so doing something that everyone in whole wide world does is hardly gonna put him off!!!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 910 ✭✭✭Jagera


    I saw a show on something like this. If you are with your boyfriend all day and are holding them in, they will build up and release when you are no longer able to stop it.

    So if you can, try & discreetly depart company with the ill winds during the day.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    OK now I'm not squeamish about bodily functions in a partner, but I have got a weird tic(one of many;)) about farting. I've never deliberately farted in front of a partner and if a woman deliberately farted in front of me for the lulz it would really put me right off her. Instant turnoff for me TBH. I actually dumped someone over it in the past as she kept thinking this was hilarious. Game over.

    Now, even with that admittedly extreme bugbear of mine if it happened in her sleep? No issue at all. It's not under her control and wouldn't bother me.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,324 ✭✭✭Oh The Humanity


    Crikey Wibbs! ;) You wouldn't last long in my house (Trump Towers!)

    OP Deffo do a bit of excersise outdoors say after your tea and maybe bang in a couple of rennies before bedtime. That should sort it out!


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 457 ✭✭MrMicra


    Your boyfriend doesn't care, he probably find's it endearing. He may tease you about it but if he is worried about his girlfriend farting he doesn't really want a girlfriend.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 883 ✭✭✭davmol


    In fairness not all blokes like or appreciate a woman farting-intentional or not!

    i definitely doesnt arouse me if i see my bird/a bird lifting herself onto one cheek and letting rip.

    Have a look at your diet,maybe your eating too much fibre.Try not eating a good few hours b4 you go to bed then theres nothig left to digest or promot gas!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I've never intentionally let rip infront of him and i never want our relationship to get like that- afew of my friends always fart infront of their girlfriends/boyfriends and i think its disgusting. Would afew rennies before bed work? I dont even know for sure if he has heard me doing it but if i have woken myself up then its safe to say he has probably heard it too..mortified. It wouldnt happen evry night though..i don't think :(


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 883 ✭✭✭davmol


    I understand youre not doing it intentionally I was just pointing out to others who see it as a joke as im sure it is embarrassing for you.Dont getme wrong nothing i find funnier than someone letting rip at he right moment.I wouldnt depend on anything medicinal to improve it.Try not eating b4 bed or make some adjustments to what you think it might be.

    Do you do it on your own at home?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    How mortifying for you. How loud are they that you're actually waking yourself up?:eek:

    It would seem that you're probably holding them in for such extended periods that they have to be released somehow. As someone pointed out, I'd do my best to sneak off before bedtime and let rip if I were you. Whil yes, everyone does indeed fart, it's nice to try and keep a bit of mystery about you so I can understand how you'd be mortified.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 481 ✭✭Fiend-Foe


    My girlfriend doesn't fart :(

    Together 3 years and have never heard a peep (or parp).

    I'm dying to hear something, can't believe it. Maybe I should squeeze her in her sleep.

    Anyway, on-topic. It wouldn't bother me in the slightest, don't worry about something you can't help OP.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 883 ✭✭✭davmol


    Thing is you can actually help it and i understand OP is embarassed over it and wants to correct it and rightly so.
    Imagine OP had to stay over at his parents house with thin walls or she was travelling and stayed in a 10 bed hostel room ,do you think she'd be content wondering when and how loud the next outburst would be and worrying if there was a naked flame inthe room:D

    Funny for us but the OP obviously wants to sort this out...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    It would be nice for me (and my sanity) to sort it out but i posted here more so to find out if its common for it to happen...and it seems that its not! It has been happening for months and he hasnt said anything so maybe he just thinks its cute...in a really weird sort of way ;)


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    There are some form of charcoal tablets that you can get for the chemist that should sort you out.

    An ex of mine used to fart a lot and his mum used to make him take these tablets.

    I'm sure they are not as loud as u think, but probably the very act of farting is what is waking you up?

    Just a little bit off topic here, I wonder is it a family thing??? This guy used to fart loudly all the time in front of everyone including his family and no-one every said anything to him. Except for me, I thought it was terrible and disgusting. In my family I have never heard anyone fart...ever! and I dont think I ever farted in front of a guy....


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,559 ✭✭✭LD 50


    It's probably not that big a deal for your boyfriend. If he hasn't mentioned it by now, he probably won't. You're asleep, you have as much control over your bodily functions as much as he does his morning wood.

    One time I was spooning with a girl, and she let one out. I didn't say anything. It wasn't a problem for me. I couldn't sleep that night/morning, that's how I know.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,085 ✭✭✭Xiney


    Overly greasy foods, dairy products (in case you're mildly lactose intollerant and simply don't know it), beans... all of these create extra gas.

    Deflatine is great, but avoiding the above (and/or any other triggers you have) will solve your gas problems at the source.

    That said, the occaisional in your sleep is pretty much a non-issue, or should be. It's not up to you what you do in your sleep. If it's so bad that it's keeping him awake throughout the night, then I'd probably visit a doctor anyway since that much gas means something is screwy.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 339 ✭✭Darthhoob


    davmol wrote: »
    In fairness not all blokes like or appreciate a woman farting-intentional or not!

    i definitely doesnt arouse me if i see my bird/a bird lifting herself onto one cheek and letting rip.

    Have a look at your diet,maybe your eating too much fibre.Try not eating a good few hours b4 you go to bed then theres nothig left to digest or promot gas!!

    you're not really meant to find farting sexy lol, a relationship isn't elongated foreplay, you are allowed to have times where you are not aroused. besides women NEED to fart as much as men do....yet it seems to be an issue for women to :rolleyes: it's actually very painful to keep them in and can cause problems if you dont let rip now and then....you wont find that arousing either ;)

    OP exercising is good for getting wind out, try not to hold it in during the day, try and avoid TOO much fibre....but tbh..dont be embarassed as it's just a bodily function at the end of the day...EVERYONE does it. to be fair you are probably waking up cos you can feel them too, your BF can't. if you can't feel them who is to say it's you lol


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    Whatever about the farting , thats only natural, nothing can be done. I'd personally cringe and be rightly put off if she started joking about it as if she one of the lads.


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    OP- I could have written this! Im in a newish relationship and am so paraniod about farting in bed with him that i actually dont sleep very much in his house at all. i woke myself up a few times doing it too and im sure he's heard it more than once. My stomach is so uncomfortable sometimes that I'm afraid to let myself fall asleep again because I know as soon as I stop holding it in I'll do it again! After the first time it happened I felt sick with embarassment every time I thought about it but I try to rationalise it by telling myself that if he has heard, it doesnt seem to have put him off me, and that I genuinely wouldn't mind at all if it was the other way round. theres tablets called Wind-eze you can get in any chemist that are good at getting rid of trapped wind discreetly (they sometimes make you fart but its quiet, really just like air being released. Cant believe im writing this, sorry all!) so i try to take one a while before bed. Its been better recently and i think some of that is to do with me being more relaxed as I find that being stressed at all makes my stomach more rumbly and uncomfortable.


  • Users Awaiting Email Confirmation Posts: 327 ✭✭zoom!


    I don't see what the big deal is. I mean it's one of those things everyone does. He couldn't dump you over it but he might tease you. and if he does just let one rip right in his face


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