cant be happening

LegacyUser

Im 37, married, with three kids.I just seen a pink line appear , where i wish there wasnt one.
How will I tell my husband.
I honestly think he will resent me, blame me and then leave me., ok maybe not leave me but wish that I wasnt, and wish that he could leave me.
What will I do.I would only be about 2 weeks gone,Im only a few days late. I did two tests, to make sure I wasnt going mad.Im not going mad, just cracking up.
Honestly, I was looking forward to grand kids,
what will I do.

Gone Drinking

Sit down and talk to your husband, if he's any sort of real husband, he won't do any of those things you mentioned.. if he does, you're better off without him! But im betting he won't.

You have options!

barbiegirl

Tell hubby, he'll be as shocked as you. Then discuss what you want to do. Best of luck. My mum had our youngest at 38, when the eldest was 18 and he was and is a joy.
Big hugs, it will be ok

seamus

http://www.positiveoptions.ie/

Although they're "crisis pregnancy" services, that includes any unplanned pregnancies which are a problem.

You need to tell your husband. It's not your fault, he has nothing to blame you for - unless you're somehow capable of asexual reproduction, then he has an equal share in the "blame".

So you and your husband need to deal with this and decide what you're going to do with this pregnancy. Talk to positive options. 37 isn't old, and certainly not too old to be having children. I know people having their first child at nearly 40.

Talk seriously about your husband getting a vasectomy. If he's solid on not having any more kids, then he has nothing to lose. It's not a very invasive procedure and the risks are minimal.

cruizer101

You say you think your husband will resent you, why, have you discussed the possibility of having more children.

My mum had her first at 35 and went on to have 3 more so if you are thinking you are too old, you're not.

You need to sit down and tell him, there is every chance he might be quite happy at the news. In any case he is an adult and should deal with the situation sensibly, i.e. comfort and support you. This is not your fault remember it takes two to tango.

Taltos

Come on - you should not have to carry this burden alone. Tell your hubby.
Sit him down and have a chat.

As to him resenting you?
Takes 2 to tango... So what is to stop you resenting him...

It might be a shock but just be honest with him.

Calhoun

Gone Drinking wrote: »

Sit down and talk to your husband, if he's any sort of real husband, he won't do any of those things you mentioned.. if he does, you're better off without him! But im betting he won't.

You have options!

Ditto, my mum had her youngest when she was 38 and i was 18 (eldest of 4 now). She was very worried at the time but it worked out and now couldn't be without him, it will work out one way or another.

If your husband doesnt want to be a part of it then thats his loss.

LadyMayBelle

Sit down and talk. You never know. My mum had my little sis when she was 40..was terribly shocked when it happened a they never ever thought...

worked out super.

seanie2

Your only a young un yet. what age is the hubby?

wexford202

If your husband blamed you he wouldn't be a very good man.

These type of things need to be worked out together. It's something you don't need to go through alone.