SERIOUS! 1st Date Need Advice...

NineIronWonder

Ok so i know this girl and im fairly sure she likes me as i like her...

I feel its time to ask her out on a date, however im a little shy when it comes to it so i need a little advice about doing it...

Where should we go? What should i do? Should we go casual like cinema and then a few drinks? Out for a meal?? I dunno what to do???

I need advice ASAP i dont want this girl to get away...:(

Wibbs

It depends. I would avoid the flix myself. Too much silence between you. Dinner may be a bit formal. Tho that would depend on the woman. Throw her a curve ball, whatabout a picnic that's a beaut tho with our current weather.... Meet for a coffee in the daytime. There are some cool tea rooms in Dublin anyway. Google is your friend. It's different anyway and a daytime date is less pressure I reckon. Maybe if she's the arty type then check out gallery exhibitions. Maybe she's never been to the national gallery? A trip to the zoo? Unless she's a PETA supporter that can be a good one.

Colonel_McCoy

Try to stay away from a meal, its a bit too soon and the cinema is no good, you will be just sitting in silence for an hour and a half.
Wibbs had a good idea with the zoo, or go for a walk on a beach and some drinks after.

carlychick

hi, good for you having the courage to ask this girl out on a date. i would advise against the cinema because as a girl myself a first date to the cinema - no.... as guys and girls differ in their tastes of movies. i would suggest (dinner not the first date its too formal ) i would suggest what someone said and would be really nice .......... a fancy tea room some place really nice and have hot chocolate and cake - that is cosy or else a drink but if you really like this girl and dont want her to get away do something a little interesting or different rather than drinks unless it was in a nice wine bar.... maybe late lunch/ mid afternoon........ good luck!

opinion guy

god yeah cinema is TERRIBLE for first dates. STAY AWAY!!! coffee, maybe lunch.

daisybelle2008

Maybe it is just me but a coffee date just seems a bit cheap, especially if you are trying to make an impression and don't want her to get away.

Pinky Pixie

As a girl with a lot of past date experiance here is my two cents...

Just go for a drink in a nice bar. Somewhere that is comfy, does wine by the bottle not the mini bottles because they always taste like crap (sometimes we like to be classy) and where the music isn't too loud so you can chat.

If your going after work and you feel like food maybe go for tapas. The sharing thing kinda brings out the conversation. Full on meal would be a no no to me.

If all goes well after that then think about cinema or a gig. No need to rush and try and make it into a big deal. First dates are about getting to know the other person.

LegacyUser

Don;t go to a loud bar, you will need to be able to chat freely.

if you have any passionate interests or hobbies, you could try and get her on board with that - "I'm just trying out my new digital SLR, want to come for a walk with me?" etc etc

pearcider

Go fly kites! Try and do any activity - museums/art exhibitions/quirky gigs/zoo/seaside/nice parks are all excellent ideas! And then a relaxing wine bar or nice coffee shop to chat. First dates in the afternoon have never failed me! Good luck dude!

Dimitri

Stay away from dinner on a first date if both people are in any way shy there is no distraction from the silence, plus as said above its a bit formal. I reckon going for coffee is the best, keep it short and sweet get an idea of the person and agree to meet for a drink or cinema while having coffee, essentially meet them to ask them on a date, make it a mini date that way ya have a bit more common ground, and you can get an idea of what they are into. Which makes it easier to pick some of the more unique options above like kite flying or a picnic which are sure to wow. I know coffee sounds cheap to some but a lot of women find guys who flash the cash a bit tiresome.

Mackleton

From a female point of view, I agree with those who have advised you to stay away from the cinema. If I could count the number of cinema dates I've been on that have gone nowhere! Yawn. The more original the better, especially like the guys here have said, if its something you're passionate about, the girl sees that and sees you are a person with interests outside of the norm, always a plus. Ideally something that you can teach her to do, I once had a guy take me windsurfing on a first date, it was brilliant craic and totally non-awkward, you forget all the first date tension!

So think of something a bit different, but tailor it to suit the girl, if she's sporty great, do something new she hasn't tried before, if not, something like the art gallery mentioned would be nice. I'd be well chuffed if a guy took me to a gallery, proves he thought about both the date and me when choosing.
Good luck, let us know how it went!

Madame Razz

Some of my best first dates have been dinner dates. Good food and good wine, followed by drinks somewhere nice afterwards. It shows interest and effort, and I think it is a really good way to kick start something with a person.


Honestly, if a guy suggested going for a picnic, or to fly a kite or whatever I would be rather inclined to run very quickly in the opposite direction; there's a very fine line between quirky different and just plain freaky afterall. What a man might think thoughtful a girl might think weird, particularly a girl you don't know.

Play it safe, go for dinner and drinks, or drinks if you're not comfortable having food with a person. I think the tapas suggestion above is a very good one.

The second date is a better time for something 'different' IMO

LegacyUser

Best first date I ever had (with my current OH actually!) was going for burgers in eddie rockets, which was perfect because it's casual, and if there's any silence you can always start playing with the jukebox and choose a song together lol..
Followed by bowling, pool and playing LOADS of arcade games - even the dance machine (the embarrassment!) Don't think i've ever had so much fun! We just had such a laugh together

speedboatchase

I always offer the same advice - go to a comedy club in town. You'll be having a few drinks, laughing and in a relaxed atmosphere. And sense of humour is always important in gauging compatibility