what would u do? opinions please

LegacyUser

hi boards,Mods can move me if i'm posting in wrong forum. i made friends with a guy about 1 year ago, we kissed once or twice but nothing more. He asked me out several times after that but i refused as i just wasn't attracted to him..obviously i didn't make it clear enough why i didn't want to go out with him....a few weeks later there was a party on in my house and he came back with my brother, he came upstairs, found my room (i was in bed) laid down on the bed beside me and wouldn't get out.. it took me a good 20 minutes of yelling at him before he left. And even then he thought i was being "unreasonable!"

Then i found out from a mutual friend that he'd been bragging that he slept with me so i told him to delete my number and not to contact me again..He then went around questioning all of my friends and anyone that would listen and making threats of calling to my house etc.etc.
then he got really strange, up to 15 texts per day and if i didn't answer them he would go into a sulk and ask me why was i treating him this way.
i have told him on several occasions to leave me alone and that i don't want anything to do with him but forward on a few months and the situation is gone beyond a joke.. the text messages have continued and gotten worse.. because we have mutual friends he seems to find out where & what i'm doing every weekend and sending me texts to tell me he "saw me in town talking to so&so". it's really freaking me out.
i have looked into changing my number but i also use the phone for work and i don't want to have to change it cos of all my work contacts.
i'm thinking about ringing him and telling him out straight to F off, leave me alone and get some help... do you think this would make any difference? as up until now, ignoring him hasn't worked and i don't want to change my number.

daisybelle2008

This is serious OP, he is acting irrationaly and is a nasty piece of work. Don't ring him or engage in any communication of any sort. I would recommend changing your number for peace of mind. Keep your sim card with evidence of his unwanted attention.
You say he came back to your house with your brother, is your brother his friend, can he have a word with him to warn him off? Can you get some friends to get the message to him to back off? You may have to think about involving the police. Are you in school or college, can you talk to your parents or school counsellor about this. It really is not acceptable.

minidazzler

Plain and simple that is harrassment. Take it to the Cops.

Also, go to your Service Provider, o2, Vodafone, Meteor or 3 and ask them to block his number from contacting you in anyway.

Do this in the morning.


Might I also suggest you have your brother have a talk with him.

Princessa

I have a samsung phone and in the call settings you can set up so that a number will automatically reject. I dont think there is anything you can do to bloke texts from coming through though. I know changing your number can be such a hassle but if his irrational behaviour continues i think it will have to be something you will have to do. Take care of yourself. x

Emme

That's nasty especially the slanderous remarks about sleeping with you at the party.:eek: Get your brother to have a chat with him and if that doesn't work go to the cops - he's harrassing you. Keep a record of the calls and texts because you'll need them if you have to go to the cops.

opinion guy

yup call your phone operator and have number blocked.
tell the guards. they might even have a word with him. they could certinaly advice him.

is your brother friends with him or what ? i'd be careful about involving the borther lest there be fistycuffs which is never good

Kenno90

Princessa wrote: »

I have a samsung phone and in the call settings you can set up so that a number will automatically reject. I dont think there is anything you can do to bloke texts from coming through though. I know changing your number can be such a hassle but if his irrational behaviour continues i think it will have to be something you will have to do. Take care of yourself. x

Although changing your number will make it stop for a while, you need to try a different approach.

If you change your number and give it to your friends and your friends give it to there friends.The new number is going to get to this guy especially if he knows you changed it.
Call up the operators and block his number....

As mentioned above this is getting serious and simply put is harassment and if need be call the guards

LegacyUser

Sorry to hear about what you are going through.

I have been in a similar situation, and I sent him a text threathening that I would call the guards on him if the harassement didn't stop. To be honest I was never going to do that, but the threat seems to work. The txts stopped, except for one a week later where he told me the guards never came, but I ignored that txt and did not hear from him since.

Involving your brother might lead to a scene, since I would assume your brother would be very protective of you. But you could mention to your brother that you dont really like being around this guy or something mild to that effect which should deter your brother from ever bringing him home again...but would hopefully not lead to fisticuffs between the two.

Best of luck

canireally

I think you should go to the guards, this happened to one of my friends before too, harrasssing her with texts etc. she went to the guards, and they rang him and told him to leave her alone. he never bothered her again. THe cops getting involved just scared him off.

It might be all he needs?