Sister concern

LegacyUser

Looking back I see what a popular topic this is but here goes again, sorry!
I feel so bad for my sister, she lives in the city alone, no friends or boyfriend and no matter what she has tried (courses, college etc) can't make long lasting friends. she doesn't go OTT with people she's just herself and she looks well and has a good personality but nothing works. She was home the other day and was telling my parents how lonely she is and how she thought going to college and living in the city would've brought her at least one friend. My heart breaks for her. she wanders around on her own all the time. I'm not much better, can't seem to find friends at college or in life in general either, just acquaintances but I feel I can take it better than she can. any advice?

LegacyUser

There are lots of clubs she can join in college. Getting involved in organising events will help her meet new people and she might click with some of them. It can be hard to make new friends but she wont if she wanders around on her own all the time! She'll have to put herself out there and really make an effort. Im not saying she hasnt but she shouldnt give up yet.

Is she into sports? There are lots of triathlon clubs popping up all over the place - people have meetups for training etc, doesnt cost anything either - check out the forums here or google upcoming triathlons. Tag rugby is another good one for meeting people.

acorntoast

Try to be there for her as much as you can.

Firetrap

I dunno if this would work for your sister but sometimes a house share is a good way to make some friends and then meet more people through them.

Has she thought about doing voluntary work? Perhaps helping other people might bring her out of her shell a bit and make her feel good about herself.

Agent J

Bear one thing in mind.

You can assist her, support her, listen to her, talk to her, advise her but you cant live her life for her. Im not for one second saying you are trying to but just putting it out there that there is a limit to what you can do.

By all means suggest what other people recommend to her but if she isnt doing it then you might want to ask you sister why and see what the response is.

Have you asked your sister why she cant seem to hold on to friends? Not exactly an easy question to ask but if you manage to get her to go place and she has an issue with people then its just going to repeat again.

starchild

it can be hard for someone to make new friends, if she is in a college there are usually meet ups etc of different groups, it would be worth while joining a couple of these

courses are not so much the best place to meet people in my opinion as they are more results orientated which takes from meet ups etc, hobby groups are usually the best

i have moved around a lot and whenever i wanted to meet new people i usually tried to find part time bar work, its great for getting involved in a social scene