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Don't know how to love

  • 05-10-2009 9:03am
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I had a bad break up during the year - he ended it. For the past month, I've been seeing someone knew (it's an LDR - he comes to visit about two nights a week), and he seems very interested. My problem is I feel numb, I just can't seem to relax and go with it. I can already see the end in sight and it's really getting me down. I don't really know how to tell him that I just don't feel very much for him. I'm so disappointed, I really though I was at the beginning of a great relationship, but I find that I don't know how to love someone else. Also, recently I have been very homesick - almost to the point that I want to move home back to my parents. I seem to moving backwards.


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  • #2
    muboop1
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    hey,

    Gonna ask a few questions here hope they aren't to invasive.

    How long ago(in months) did last relationship end?

    Are you over it? (Be honest here)

    You say you thought you were starting a great new relationship... Do you think you need/want a relationship at the moment?

    Are you happy being single and just being yourself?

    Why do you see yourself as going backwards just because you are single/potentially going to be single?

    Do you rely on relationships?

    As for home sickness what has brought this on do you think?


  • #3
    dsmythy
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    If you're not interested in him it's best to tell him sooner rather than later for both your sakes.


  • #4
    kjl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,127 ✭✭✭kjl


    anon1900 wrote: »
    I had a bad break up during the year - he ended it. For the past month, I've been seeing someone knew (it's an LDR - he comes to visit about two nights a week), and he seems very interested. My problem is I feel numb, I just can't seem to relax and go with it. I can already see the end in sight and it's really getting me down. I don't really know how to tell him that I just don't feel very much for him. I'm so disappointed, I really though I was at the beginning of a great relationship, but I find that I don't know how to love someone else. Also, recently I have been very homesick - almost to the point that I want to move home back to my parents. I seem to moving backwards.

    Yeah, this is clearly a rebound relationship. I take it you mean "someone new" right? Why would you get involved in a LDR with someone, that would be the last thing I would expect from someone just out of a bad break up.

    You need to tell the guy you are not interested in being in a relationship anymore, tell him exactly what you told us. easy!


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