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  • 04-10-2009 6:52pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi all.
    Just wondering if you think this guy is just being friendly or dropping hints that he's interested in me.
    Basically we've known each other for a few years. Get on very well. Don't see each other very often due to living in different cities. But everytime we do he seems to be very attentive and hangs round me more than the rest of our group. I often catch him looking at me, although me being quite shy tend to look away very fast. He's also very touchy feely-always looking for an excuse to hug me or touch my face, etc. I can be quite rude to him at times, esp after a few drinks when I get tipsy, yet he is still so nice and sweet to me.
    He has never said he likes me but he wouldn't really as I have never given him any signs I like him. Infact I prob give him the impression I couldn't care less, this is due to my shyness mostly.
    So, is this just normal friendly behavior (none of my other male frieds act like this) or is he dropping subtle hints?
    Thanks!


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  • #2
    wolfric
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,190 ✭✭✭wolfric


    Could be just shy like you and not worked up the courage to ask you out... Yeah sounds like he has a bit of a thing for you... Why don't do the same back in a way. Drop hints of your own... hug him back and give him more attention... if you get to a point where you're both alone just lock eyes for a little longer then usual and see where it goes.
    If you live in different cities and you're both shy like that be careful of it turning out to be something that wont work long distance if you don't see each other that often though.


  • #3
    Mr. Incognito
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,798 ✭✭✭Mr. Incognito


    why don't you ask him out for a casual drink and see what happens. Just the two of you.


  • #4
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Mr. Incognito wrote: »
    why don't you ask him out for a casual drink and see what happens. Just the two of you.

    I would be far too shy to ask him for a drink at the mo, esp when I don't know for sure if that's what he may be hinting at.

    I guess I could flirt back, drop some subtle hints of my own. Although I am useless at flirting with men that I really like. I suppose it's the fear of rejection. If I knew for sure he was interested in more than just being friends then it would be easier for me to flirt.

    Most guys who have fancied me before would have come on quite stong and would have made it very clear they were interested.


  • #5
    wolfric
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,190 ✭✭✭wolfric


    you don't have to "flirt" as in inverted commas (literally and metaphorically in this case). Ever notice the lines become blurred between very good friend and more then friends?
    You don't have to ask him out for a drink you don't have to make it sound like a date. People go out for drinks as just friends all the time. If he hugs you hug him back a bit longer. Touches your face then smile or look into his eyes... If all else fails though after a while it usually does eat you up not knowing so best just tell him or if you really must, ask a friend to ask him.

    Shy relationships are so cute :P


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