Kisses

TriceMarie

Ladies,trying not to sound immature,b1tchy or whatever here,
but what do you do when you get with a lovely guy...but he's not a great kisser?:o
Because you know,you want it to be sensual or whatever,not uncomfortable

Nervous Wreck

Teach him?

Snowie

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

Teach him?

i agree

TriceMarie

But that's not possible without being a b1tch is it?

Nervous Wreck

Nah, just be sensitive about it. My last girlfriend taught me how to be good at sex. I guess it wasn't that embarrassing though cos I was aware that I was pretty bad at it... But fcuk it, I'm a fuggin warrior in the linen now so a little embarrassment is worth it. Broach the topic with empathy and then teach him!

Have you kissed him much? Maybe you just haven't found your rhythm, or nerves is throwing him off.
If he is doing something obviously wrong then by all means tell him. If your not comfortable enough. I find just stopping and pulling back for a second, gets the point across.

Jules

Not necessarly teach him but let him know what you like, maybe get him to close his eye and let you kiss him and you take the lead. When he tries to take over, nicely let him know that you are kissing him and you want to show him how you liked to be kissed. Make sure you include where you want him to put his hands, i.e. at the back of your neck, in your hair,full on arms wrapped around you, but obviously show him by you doing it to him.

Vinta81

It's hard to know what to do, one guy was like a washing manchine, constant swishing and rolling around and wet and oh lord

cardio,shoot me

who cares? its all about hugs anyway :P

minidazzler

Vinta81 wrote: »

It's hard to know what to do, one guy was like a washing manchine, constant swishing and rolling around and wet and oh lord

ewwww, met a few of them in my time:( *females though*

Worst I ever had was a girl with no lips apparently, there was absolutely no seal at all, it was weird.

Vinta81

minidazzler wrote: »

ewwww, met a few of them in my time:( *females though*

Worst I ever had was a girl with no lips apparently, there was absolutely no seal at all, it was weird.

that's unfortunate, although on the plus side this guy is like a God in college to *some* and I have the personal satisfaction he didn't live up to expectations :pac:

minidazzler

Vinta81 wrote: »

that's unfortunate, although on the plus side this guy is like a God in college to *some* and I have the personal satisfaction he didn't live up to expectations :pac:

Lol, I know the type, good looking and popular so noone would dare call him on being crap!!!! lol, while those of us who are very average or slightly below average(depending on my self-esteem that day:pac:) Are great kissers:D

TriceMarie

Moonbaby wrote: »

Have you kissed him much? Maybe you just haven't found your rhythm, or nerves is throwing him off.
If he is doing something obviously wrong then by all means tell him. If your not comfortable enough. I find just stopping and pulling back for a second, gets the point across.

No,only once.But I've liked him for a while.Don't know if anything more will come out of this,and if not who cares,I like being single too lol.

Well,I tried by moving my head in oposite direction,but then he just followed,so it made it akward and hard to get my tongue in right if you get what i mean?lol

Vinta81

minidazzler wrote: »

Lol, I know the type, good looking and popular so noone would dare call him on being crap!!!! lol, while those of us who are very average or slightly below average(depending on my self-esteem that day:pac:) Are great kissers:D

exactly, we're simply outstanding. Still don't think he knows, I don't get the "teach him/her" theory - I'd die if someone told me I was a pants kisser.

minidazzler

Vinta81 wrote: »

exactly, we're simply outstanding. Still don't think he knows, I don't get the "teach him/her" theory - I'd die if someone told me I was a pants kisser.

I'd be embarrassed if someone said I was a crap kisser, but that's because it's something I am good at I think:D Never had complaints.

Someone told me I was crap in bed I would get them to teach me if they were willing.

TriceMarie

TriceMarie wrote: »

No,only once.But I've liked him for a while.Don't know if anything more will come out of this,and if not who cares,I like being single too lol.

Well,I tried by moving my head in oposite direction,but then he just followed,so it made it akward and hard to get my tongue in right if you get what i mean?lol

Ah look it might be fine!
The first time I kissed my ex, it was horrific.
I liked him so I gave it another go, and it was awesome and was ever more.

Vinta81

minidazzler wrote: »

I'd be embarrassed if someone said I was a crap kisser, but that's because it's something I am good at I think:D Never had complaints.

Someone told me I was crap in bed I would get them to teach me if they were willing.

hmm I think I'm pretty good too. Got a nice technique going lol. As for the bedroom thing, I've been told A** so

minidazzler

Vinta81 wrote: »

hmm I think I'm pretty good too. Got a nice technique going lol. As for the bedroom thing, I've been told A** so

I've told a girl that when she wasn't particularily good, if I said she wasn't good it would kill any chance of a repeat, so don't believe everything you hear:D

Vinta81

minidazzler wrote: »

I've told a girl that when she wasn't particularily good, if I said she wasn't good it would kill any chance of a repeat, so don't believe everything you hear:D

Trying to bruise my ego mister? mini for a reason :pac: I jest, but no I know I am, he wasn't the only one though but ah least we talk of my exploits the better. Damn living in the smallest place in Cork.

liah

I find they get better over time.

...that, or my expectations just get lower.

metrovelvet

Hmnnnn....a childish suggestion [literally]

You could do what we did as girls in pre-buscence and practise tying cherry stems in knots with your tongue.

If not you could try this approach. Never underestimate our capacity for imitation. We just tend to fall into it. So maybe start taking the lead, do it your way and the way you want it done and be persistent and he will then just fall into the trap of imitation.

pikachucheeks

Everyone's different and likes different things, so you just have to adjust, depending on who you're with.

There's always a way of ... teaching the person to do what you like, rather than classing them as a bad kisser and ditching them. If you genuinely like the person, it's worth putting effort into it!

Just make them follow your lead! Or show them what you like!

If they're really not getting the hint, then say something - but be sensitive about it! Don't want to hurt the person's feelings.

minidazzler

Vinta81 wrote: »

Trying to bruise my ego mister? mini for a reason :pac: I jest, but no I know I am, he wasn't the only one though but ah least we talk of my exploits the better. Damn living in the smallest place in Cork.

That's Low...I hate my username/Nickname(yes My real life Nickname is Mini!)

Xiney

moved from tLL

spinandscribble

Nervous Wreck wrote: »

Nah, just be sensitive about it. My last girlfriend taught me how to be good at sex. I guess it wasn't that embarrassing though cos I was aware that I was pretty bad at it... But fcuk it, I'm a fuggin warrior in the linen now so a little embarrassment is worth it. Broach the topic with empathy and then teach him!

lol i love that phrase, "fuggin warrior in the linen'

yeah just go "oh let me kiss you, don't move" then go i like it when you do this "kiss"

liah

Don't wanna get carded, but why on earth is this in relationship issues..? It seems to be an opinion topic..

Xiney

Looked to me like the OP was asking for advice.