lonliness

hairyhead

hi all,

I have a problem which i cant find a solution to.
I constantly find myself alone.
I just go to work and sit at home, i get nervous around new people and i dont seem to be able to talk to anyone without my mind going blank.
i just seem to freeze up.

I know i have rubbish social skills but is that something i can work on myself?

thanks

Odysseus

As nobody has answered your question, though it can be slow here at the weekend. The best advice I would offer to anyone with a question like yours; is talk it over with a professional. You question goes beyond the scope of what people can post here.

By talking it over with a professional you can discuss in detail your problem in a safe environment and thereby make a informed decision as to whether this is something you can tackle alone. Hope this helps a little, and best of luck with it.

hairyhead

Odysseus wrote: »

As nobody has answered your question, though it can be slow here at the weekend. The best advice I would offer to anyone with a question like yours; is talk it over with a professional. You question goes beyond the scope of what people can post here.

By talking it over with a professional you can discuss in detail your problem in a safe environment and thereby make a informed decision as to whether this is something you can tackle alone. Hope this helps a little, and best of luck with it.

thanks, so would my gp be the right person to talk to?
or a couciler? sorry for my blind approach to this

SATSUMA

A counsellor would be a great idea and your GP could recommend one for you. Otherwise you can find one yourself. It's always good to talk things through with someone. Best of luck.

orla6240

Hi,

I used to have the same problem and still do sometimes. I have learned through working with a psychotherapist that it is my defense mechanism that causes it but that I don't have to be a slave to my defense.
Here is a link to the practice I highly recommend....
http://www.ippireland.com/ipp_therapists.php
I hope this helps. Feel free to pm me if you want to ask any more questions I know its scary going into this for the first time.

JuliusCaesar

hairyhead wrote: »

thanks, so would my gp be the right person to talk to?
or a couciler? sorry for my blind approach to this

You can access free treatment for social anxiety through your GP and HSE mental health services. Your GP may also be able to recommend an evidence-based psychological approach, or psychotherapist.

This and this will give you an idea of what to expect, and includes some self-help books at the bottom of the page.

Torakx

Sorry to hear that roaming.
Please dont let that situation go on for too much longer.Your social needs are extremely important to your health and well being.
Your husband might be ill or have some kind of mental disorder.

Since you have mentioned it progressing more and more, the sooner you deal with this the better.Waiting could make it harder to act and leave you even more cut off from the world.

Family would be great if that is an option too.
Dont feel like your needs or situation is not a priority or that big a deal.

To the OP i can also relate very well to your situation.As i experienced something similar while being agoraphobic.
Dont give up anyway, once you actually make those steps to look into it and search for the answer it will start to become more clear and get easier.
Sitting away for months in a room was the worst thing i could have done when i was ill.
And while seeing a professional should be a priority, i also feel what helped me no ends was simply researching about my health and addressing my diet(which was partly the cause in my situation).
It gave me more energy to push through the times when my mind wasnt strong enough to do the job on its own.

I hope to hear back from both of you also if you can,as i would like to know you both sought some help and advice and how you found it improved your life.

Odysseus

Roaming wrote: »

I am so lonely. My husband never speaks to me, never takes me out. Doesn't want people calling to house. Cancelled milk man and window cleaner. If I speak to post man he butts in and I have to walk away. He wonders why i visit my best friend so often (once every 3 or 4 weeks!) . I have just realised it is a full week since I spoke to a human being face to face. He insists I only go shopping ever two weeks or once a month. If anything is needed between times I have to tell him and he gets it. One would be better off in prison at least you would get to see people. I rely on pc and my world. Next the phone line will be cut off!

I would suggest that you visit a professional, you could start with your GP. This really isn't a place to discuss personal issues, the personal issues forum would be a better place to post.

Best of luck with it.

JuliusCaesar

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