what can i do?

LegacyUser

I'll try make this as short as I can...

me and my best friend had a fight two days ago - maybe fight isnt the right word as he just snapped at me and went on a rant about what an awful friend ive been to him. And I know I have been, at least recently. He's been going through a lot of problems over the last month or so (mostly family related) and pretty understandably didnt want to discuss them with me... so instead of being understanding I for some reason have been giving him an even harder time . I dont even know how to phrase this, but almost everything he said to me was completely true (Im selfish, i dont care about his feelings, i put him down, so on)

After all that I know I really dont deserve to have him as a friend anymore but he really does mean so much to me, and I just want to make it up to him... I know i dont have a right to expect him to forgive me but i dont want him to think that this is how I treat friends. I honestly did not realise how much I was hurting him, its a weak excuse I know...Id love to do over the last month again because I can see now (with the wonderful gift of hindsight) that I have been an absolute cow... His rant (whatever I should call it) was such a wake up call for me, a well needed dose of cop on, and right now i just feel like sh*t for everything Ive done...I have decided to try to fix the things he said about me (which other people have said to me as well).

I dont really know what my question is... Where do I go from here? I dont want to lose my best friend but I think I already have. Any advice would be lovely as Im just so confused.... im never good at dealing with people at the best of times (i tend to just get aggressive or moody when things dont go my way) and Im so out of my depth here.

Thank you

Aspiration

Hey OP, have you tried apologising for your behaviour? I've had arguments with best friends before, but to be honest, I think it's perfectly healthy. The main thing is to get everything out in the open, talk, apologise/forgive and forget.

You may not have been a good friend recently, or perhaps you could have been a better friend if he confided in you, either way it's all part of friendship that one is going to piss the other off at some stage. I don't think this is going to be the end of your friendship, I just think you guys have lots to talk about, and once it's done, just forget about it and move on and enjoy being friends.

Best of luck - I've pissed off lots of friends and I've been pissed off by lots of friends before, but it makes a friendship when ye can get through those times and still have so much time for them.

honey79

i have not spoken to one of my best friends in months because of some silly misunderstanding talk to your friend before you end up the same just tell the truth say your sorry and don't know why you did what you did
real friends are so hard to find and your friend will be missing you to
please contact them soon as the longer you leave it the harder it will become

Firetrap

Your friend might be regretting that he went off on a rant as well. Meet up with him, apologise and admit straight out that you've been an idiot/rubbish friend etc. and that you're glad that he's opened your eyes to your past behaviour. Hopefully it's just a bit of a spat rather than a nasty rift.