Should I cut contact with her?

sour_apple

I have a friend who i thought was a good friend but a couple of things has happened which is really making me think.

There is some lad she knows and she absolutely hates him. She does nothing but just bitch about him. Quite a few times she has said that i would suit him right down to the ground. (for a lad a can't stand myself but i don't spend my time bitching about him).
Now i don't need someone one to pick out men for me, but why is she picking out someone she hates and can't stand. Is she trying to tell me something?

She has rolled her eyes at me a few times while i was talking. Its like a if she was trying to say i was making it up or something. (And that's something i don't do not do, lie). What does it mean when people roll their eyes? I don't know what she was trying to say but i don't really like to have someone rolling their eyes at me (i think its bad manners).

Last week she called me stupid for having a different view to her. Just because i didn't have the same view as her, i was stupid. What was i stupid for? For having my own thoughts?
It wasn't the only time she has called me stupid. The last time was when michael jackson died, she said small loss, racist against his own colour. She called me stupid when i told her he had a skin disease!

She is also very negative towards me. As a friend she knows my dreams and aspirations but she does nothing but knock them down, telling me all sorts. I'll be useless at this and that. I'd rather go out and find out for myself if im going to be useless at something!

They may seem small compared to other people's posts but she really does get me down. Should i bring it up with her? Or should i cut contact with her?

Lillylilly

I always think that friends are supposed to make you feel better about yourself, not worse.
Would you be happier if she wasn't in your life??

I had to make a decision like this years ago. The friend in question was always so negative, and drained me of any energy I had. She always put me down, never supported me and took the piss out of me in front of others. I'm a happier person without her in my life!

You need to think about what's best for you. Does she bring more negativity into your life than positivity?! If so, your question should answer itself.

Princessa

Maybe she doesnt realise she is being so hurtful.... Trying to give her the benefit of the doubt and see the best in her, but if you thought that ye were really good friends then its worth a chat before you cut her out of your life. Obviously if nothing changes after the chat and you're still unhappy then i think by reading your post that you alread know that you dont want much to do with her. Good luck anyways.

DigiGal

sour_apple wrote: »

I have a friend who i thought was a good friend but a couple of things has happened which is really making me think.

There is some lad she knows and she absolutely hates him. She does nothing but just bitch about him. Quite a few times she has said that i would suit him right down to the ground. (for a lad a can't stand myself but i don't spend my time bitching about him).
Now i don't need someone one to pick out men for me, but why is she picking out someone she hates and can't stand. Is she trying to tell me something?

She has rolled her eyes at me a few times while i was talking. Its like a if she was trying to say i was making it up or something. (And that's something i don't do not do, lie). What does it mean when people roll their eyes? I don't know what she was trying to say but i don't really like to have someone rolling their eyes at me (i think its bad manners).

Last week she called me stupid for having a different view to her. Just because i didn't have the same view as her, i was stupid. What was i stupid for? For having my own thoughts?
It wasn't the only time she has called me stupid. The last time was when michael jackson died, she said small loss, racist against his own colour. She called me stupid when i told her he had a skin disease!

She is also very negative towards me. As a friend she knows my dreams and aspirations but she does nothing but knock them down, telling me all sorts. I'll be useless at this and that. I'd rather go out and find out for myself if im going to be useless at something!

They may seem small compared to other people's posts but she really does get me down. Should i bring it up with her? Or should i cut contact with her?

That rolling the eyes thing...I had a friend who did that found it absolutely intolerable, had to cut contact otherwise I would have hurt her!

DigiGal

Oh and OP....A friend is not a person who makes you feel bad about yourself imo.

My advice get rid but in a civil, casual way. Don't burn bridges as she sounds like a total bitch and I have no doubt she would make life very difficult for you. So cut down the amount of time ya spend with her but don't be nasty about it

Moomoo1

tricky one. On one hand, calling a friend stupid when you really think they are stupid is clearly ok: friends should be honest with each other. On the other hand, bullying and demeaning friends isn't really on.

So it's really up to you to judge the situation and decide whether to cut her some slack or to cut her off. Maybe tell her that you don't like her having a go at you first?

MistressPandora

I agree with the other posters, you should definitely phase her out of your life.

“There's a point in life when you get tired of chasing everyone and everything and trying to fix everything but it's not giving up. It's realising that you don't need certain people and their crap.”

This quote helped me a lot when I had to cut some friends out of my life, hope it helps you a little too.

Colonel_McCoy

Bin her as a friend.......all she does is belittle you. Kick her to touch

dudara

If someone rolls their eyes at me, then that's it. I won't talk to them anymore. It's an incredibly disrepectful mannerism.

She sounds like an incredibly unpleasant person who doesn't seem to care about your feelings.

Oh The Humanity

Cut her off without further ado.

LegacyUser

She is clearly jealous of you and is trying to overcome her own low self-esteem by being critical of you. Don't listen to her, and phase her out.