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  • 30-09-2009 5:44pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    Hi guys,

    ok long story short, with my BF 4 and a half years, when we were together just over 2 years he cheated on me, we broke up but got back together 2 years ago. everything is going well, I have forgiven him we have moved on. only think is we have only had sex maybe once a month since we got back together, sometimes more sometimes less.

    he isnt pressuring me at all, understands its hard on me and says he will wait as long as it takes me to be comfortable having sex again. when we do have sex now I just want it over as soon as possible, I dont enjoy it anymore as I am not really getting into it, more that I feel I should be and only doing it for him. few times I have cried although not for a year or more so I took this that I was getting better but I dont think I am.

    I know this post is all over the place but trying to get all the info into it.

    basically I wanted to know of anyone in a similiar situation, maybe I should try counselling or hypnosis, I dont know but I want to work it out, we dont want to break up but dont see how this can last long term.

    thanks...


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  • #2
    daisybelle2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭daisybelle2008


    It sounds like something is holding you back physically. Maybe there is some residual trust issues around the cheating. You say you have moved on and things are going well and you have forgived him but are you 100% about those 3 things? The damage done might have run deeper then you think. It might be worth leaving the sex thing aside and truly examining your whole relationship and weather you truly did the right thing by forgiving him because somewhere inside part of you is resisting the relationship.


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