being afraid of people

ladylouise

well i have a strange question .well i know this person and this person has natural dislike for me and i did n,t nothing to this person .this person ignores me won,t salut me.can some one have natural dislike of another without knowing them or wanting to know them?i don,t understand ?
i am partly afraid of this person psychology.

i am afraid to talk to people in street on internet because people just ignore me
i might say something as joke i try explain they total blocked me out.
people are always ignoring me and i always feel they,ll something bad to me or say nasty or worse ignore me like i don,t exist which alot with guys lately on the net and every where else.

i can,t figure people out i can,t make friends i have tried i only make mess of it.

how i look is awful. does looks matter when trying to make freinds becasue i think it does some one.

JuliusCaesar

ladylouise wrote: »

well i have a strange question .well i know this person and this person has natural dislike for me and i did n,t nothing to this person .this person ignores me won,t salut me.can some one have natural dislike of another without knowing them or wanting to know them?

Yes.

ladylouise wrote: »

i am afraid to talk to people in street on internet because people just ignore me
i might say something as joke i try explain they total blocked me out.
people are always ignoring me and i always feel they,ll something bad to me or say nasty or worse ignore me like i don,t exist which alot with guys lately on the net and every where else.i can,t figure people out i can,t make friends i have tried i only make mess of it.

It might be something to do with your social skills, it might be you have social anxiety which hinders performance of social skills.

ladylouise wrote: »

how i look is awful. does looks matter when trying to make freinds becasue i think it does some one.

depends what you mean by your looks; people will often have a problem if you are dirty and smelly/ your clothes are dirty & smelly. If you're clean and look normalish (Normal being quite wide in definition) then that shouldn't be a problem except in your own head - that is if you think tthere is something wrong-looking or ugly. In which case you might look at self-esteem issues or at worst BDD.

Hope this is useful - if you google some of these terms, you'll see that many of the problems can be overcome.

ladylouise

what do i do.there is this guy i know of him.i see he never looks at me or talk to me, or show any interested what so ever and every body likes him.what is doing right?i feel intimated by him its like he has powers.he dislikes me for reasons unknown i try make freinds he just not intertsed.

i am heavy girl wide.my skin isn,t very clear,i have very fat wide face.short,glasses,pigtails.crooked teeth and one crooked eye.short,

i have no real social skills.it really hurts when people ignore your email or text,you know well there doing it and they don,t care.i make effort to be nice to end being ignored and treated like i don,t exist,they know full well there hurting some one feelings and they don,t care.

Kevster

You have to ask yourself the following Q my dear: Why on Earth do you care what this other person thinks of you? They have shown that they no longer want to communicate with you, and that should be fine. Nothing lasts forever in this world, and nobody owes anybody anything. Just move on with your life by erasing all contact details with this other person. It both pains and angers me to see you in this situation.

Kevin

ladylouise

sorry for bother yee again
i am wondering do bully's ever get there come up ins?
a guy insults a few years ago and he never got he comes ups

after all the bulling i have had i know it was years ago.i turned out to afraid of people because what they might say. do they ever get to pay ?do they?

the vitmin of bulling always pay.i find it very hard interact with people due bulling and name calling ,insults etc.

i,d the bullys don,t get there any sort of coming ups.it always the like me pick up the bill.they get away scoth free like
always which i thinks is very unfair it really is unfair.

Kevster

Again, why do you care whether or not a bully gets 'come up ins'? You are arguably just as bad as they are if you think that revenge should be exacted on them. Just treat everyone in your life kindly, and you will then fare much better in life.

Do'nt ever let anger get the better of you.

ladylouise

Kevster wrote: »

Again, why do you care whether or not a bully gets 'come up ins'? You are arguably just as bad as they are if you think that revenge should be exacted on them. Just treat everyone in your life kindly, and you will then fare much better in life.

Do'nt ever let anger get the better of you.

i am nice people its gets me no where only walk down on

eth0_

LadyLouise, you are going to get banned from this entire website if you don't stop making these posts. People have offered you help and your unwillingness to accept their suggestions has gotten you banned from several forums already.

Here is my advice to you:

1> If someone isn't interested in being friends with you, MOVE ON. You cannot be compatible with EVERYONE. If someone doesn't reply to a text or email, don't repeatedly

2> Eat healthily and lose weight. Clearly, from reading your other posts, your self-image is really holding you back in life, so stop wallowing in self-pity and do something about it. You don't need a gym to exercise.

3> Do something about your vocabulary and literacy skills. I don't mean to be unkind but I was shocked to see that you are Irish and not a non-native speaker of Irish! This will really impact on how other people view you.

4> Go to a therapist or self-esteem class. It will really help.

Change will obviously not happen overnight but you need to start somewhere.

r3nu4l

Hi ladylouise, you have made a lot of posts across several forums regarding some of the issues you are having. My advice is pretty simple. Go to a doctor and talk with them about your problems. Ask that doctor for advice on who you should see to help you solve these problems.

There really isn't much more that we can do or much more that anyone can say to you that hasn't already been said on boards.ie. Talking with a trained professional will really help and benefit you enormously so I strongly encourage you to do this.

I'm going to close this thread because I don't think we should encourage any further online 'help' as only a trained professional can really help you in my opinion. Go see someone and get a start on making your life a lot better than it is now