want him so bad!!!

LegacyUser

I moved into a new house a couple of weeks ago. I fancy one of my housemates so much i actually cannot function properly around him! I don't know what to do. Already I know I would be really upset if he brought a girl home. I don't know if it's a crush, just pure lust or if I want him as a boyfriend. I never wanted someone so badly in my life. I have turned into a complete perv, all I'm thinking when he is in the room is different ways of ehem.. jumping him. So frustrating, I have never been like this before. It doesn't help that he has really flirty eyes and is always chatting to me either. If he only knew!

What do I do now? I really like this house and I don't want to move again but at at the same time I want something to happen. He might not fancy me at all but something tells me he does. Surely it has to be mutual or have I created this sexual tension in my head?

Has this happened anyone else? What did you do? If you did act on it how long did you wait?

krudler

Could be a really awkward situation if anything happened, never been there myself but kno someone who had the exact same issue, moved into a college house, fancied roommate, they flirted for ages then hooked up one night, went fine for a while but ended up with them falling out and moving.
from my own pov its a lot to take on with someone you fancy, say something does happen, you've essentially skipped a few months or years of whats considered "normal" in a relationship and are living together, alhough on the other hand it could work out just fine, why not try find out from your other housemates if you have any if he's mentioned you or finds you attractive in the same way?

shellyboo

If you're going to act on it, act sooner rather than later... you don't want it to turn into a friendship situation.

Your poor housemates though

dceire

It obviously could turn out to be a very awkward situation if something did happen but on the other hand I do know of someone who acted on the impulses that your are having and all worked out well.

A friend of mine was living in a house with four other lads. One of them moved out and a wee Scottish lass moved in. After a house party one night they ended up kissing. They then start going out together, cue many hours of endless piss taking for me and the other lads :rolleyes:

Anyway my mate moved out about a year back and the last I heard they are about to get married so I'd say make sure its what you want and then go for it. Don't be waiting for him to make the first move either, I think this whole guys having to make the first move is as outdated as no sex before marriage

Good Luck!

Terodil

Bah, you'll never know if you don't try. I think you should.

Good luck!

G-Money

torture wrote: »

Surely it has to be mutual or have I created this sexual tension in my head?

I'm not saying he will turn you down but when I read this I thought it seemed a bit presumptuous. He may be interested, he may not, you really won't know until you say something.

I shared an apartment with two people up until quiet recently, a guy and a girl. I noticed myself starting to like the girl and there were times I thought she was interested too. However I wasn't sure if she did like me as she was from Canada and as a result I figured their mentality is a little different to ours and what we might mistake for interest, they just take to be friendliness. I also couldn't seem to decide if I wanted to go out with her as well. We had been sharing an apartment for about 8 or 9 months so I guess we knew each other well and I figured if she turned me down it was going to be awkward and if she didn't, it would sort of be weird as we'd almost be "living together" right from the get go.

I also noticed myself getting jealous and a little upset/sick at the thought of her bringing some guy home and it made me actually avoid staying there at weekends for the last few weeks I was living there.

In the end I moved out and I never mentioned anything to her about it. By the time I'd moved out I had sort of come to the conclusion that I shouldn't make a move as I was so indecisive about whether I actually wanted to go out with her or not. I still don't know whether she was ever interested but it doesn't bother me that much at the moment. Having said that, I haven't had a house warming party and I wouldn't fancy the idea of her attending with some guy.

Anyway, you could make some sort of move on him or wait some night until you's are both drunk, but who knows when the latter might happen. I'm not trying to be negative but you do need to accept the fact that he may say no and you need to have an idea of what you'll do if that happens. Could you continue living there? What happens when he brings a girl back some night?

It's like anything, there are times it works out, and there are times it doesn't. For every negative story you will hear, you will also hear a positive one. That was another reason I didn't make a move on my ex-housemate was that I knew if she said no, I'd have to move out. Not that she'd make me, but I knew it would do my head in living there under those circumstances. I decided to wait until nearer the time I was moving out and figured I'd say then. By that point though, the notion had went off me and nothing happened.

It was so hard to know if she was interested. She never mentioned other guys around me and she never mentioned girls that I was seeing, apart from one occasion. I brought this girl back and it was so weird, it was as if as soon as my housemate saw her, she felt hurt. Maybe I was just imagining things though. A while after that my housemate asked me had I met up with that girl recently. The girl in question was convinced that my housemate fancied me but I never really believed it. The housemate would quite often come down to my room to have a chat or to talk to me about something. She never did that with the other guy who lived there. I also remember one night I'd lent her something, I can't remember if it was a dvd or something. Anyway she was getting ready for bed and came into my room wearing a skimpy top and her boobies almost falling out of them. I'm sure she must have known the reaction that would cause. There also was a film out in the cinema and she asked was I going to see it and I said I might be and she said she might go with me. I wasn't sure if this was her asking me out or not. A short while after that she told me about how her company has drinks on Friday nights in town and "you should come along some night". Again I wasn't sure if this was just friendliness as she knew I liked the bar in question.

Anyway I don't know if that helps you or not. But all I'd say is make your feelings clear if you do decide to make a move. See the above paragraph for examples of what a guy thinks! Good luck with whatever you decide.

PS: I wish there was some girl I fancied who was constantly thinking about jumping me