Is this normal?

LegacyUser

Hi all,

Just looking for some simple advice.

I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years and I love him to bits. I met him when I was 19 and now I'm 22. Every now and again I go through phases where I start to yearn that feeling you get when you're single and you fancy someone but you don't know if they fancy you and it's exciting.

Now the thing is I don't miss the single life, just the 'chase' I suppose. I have no desire to be single and when I go through these phases I don't want to to break up with my boyfriend to experience the chase, but I just find myself yearning for it. We've just moved in together and are fairly settled but as there are no plans for engagement or babies anytime soon so I think things just aren't as exciting anymore and that might be why I miss it.

I just wanted to know if it is normal to feel this way?

Thanks!

barleybooley

I'd say when you've been with someone that long it is quite normal. My boyfriend and I were actually talking about this last night and I know completely what you mean. So, I wouldn't worry about it, how often have we been warned about the grass rarely being greener? We all get our crushes from time to time but when we're upset, it's nearly always the OH we want with us. At least for me anyway

Good luck!

kjl

so put yourself out there, you can flirt with other people and experience the chase without cheating on your bf, If you need to do that to validate you relationship knock your self out