not sure about her ..

turkelton

i said in another thread how i think im falling for a friend and i think she fells the same way, but i dont know, i know this sounds stupid .. examples like when im in her house (she shares a house with my best mate and his girlfriend just down the road from me) she always seems to make an efford to sit beside me, and if she doesnt she texts me silly little msgs even tho wer in the same room, but last nite was the 1 that really got me wondering. there was a good few of us in the house and it was gettin late and people started leaving, she said she was going to bed and i was gonna stay watch a dvd wit my best mate but he went to bed and she said she would stay up and watch it wit me,so the 2 of us stayed up, the whole way threw the dvd she kept sayin "its awful late u can stay here just hop in beside me". then during the dvd she fell asleep so i went home, this mornin i text her messing sayin she was useless for falling asleep, and she text bac saying "if we were at something i wouldnt have fallin asleep"

is she being friendlly or i there something more to it?

token56

tbh she couldn't be more obvious, she is giving every hint that she is interested. My advice, dont wait until the next time where she is making the move again, either tell her how you feel or make the move first next time. Dont let this hang too long, be proactive and go for it.

Best of luck with it.

turkelton

but the thing is im in a realationship for the last 5 years and my girlfriend has moved away for work for a few months,i think im falling for this other girl and i think she feels the same, i dont know wat to do

opinion guy

ok are you seriously doubting the meaning of that text ?

I just reread your other thread.
To be perfectly honest I'm half thinking you are posting here looking for us to tell you it would be ok to be with this girl despite having a girlfriend.

we aren't going to do that. I was gentle on your other thread. let me be blunt now:

Man up. Either admit to yourself that you have feelings for this girl or stop stringing her along. If you do have feeligns make a choice whether you want your girlfriend or this girl. If you want your girlfriend then tell this girl you have become uncomfortable with things and distance yourself from her. If you want this girl, then do the decent thing and break up with your girlfriend before you do anything with this girl

token56

turkelton wrote: »

but the thing is im in a realationship for the last 5 years and my girlfriend has moved away for work for a few months,i think im falling for this other girl and i think she feels the same, i dont know wat to do

Ah well thats a fairly vital piece of information and changes everything.

I guess it boils down to what you really want. I'm pressuming you are still with your girlfriend here so I would not and never will advise cheating on your girlfriend with this girl. You can fairly positive the other girl is interested in you. But for all you know it could just be a crush for both of you. Is it worth leaving a 5 year relationship and taking the risk, I guess thats what you have to decided.

Think about why you are considering it? Are you unhappy with your current relationship and is this because your girlfriend is not around at the moment? Or do you feel you might like this new girl more than your current girlfriend? etc

Its not an easy decision but I really think you should do anything without talking to your current girlfriend if you are unhappy with your current relationship and out of respect to her dont do anything behind her back.

*Edit: Also I didn't know you had a different thread on the same issue. I think you know very clearly what your options are, no one here is going to tell you what to do or advise you what to do to make your choice any easier. Only you know how you really feel. You need to be fair to yourself and most importantly to your girlfriend and make the right decision now. Note the right decision is not always the easiest.