He is leaving his Job for me !

LegacyUser

I'll keep it short I have been with my other half for just over a year we love each other very very much, he lives in London but we see each other every week anyway every time he or I come home it is unbearable time didnt make it easier and he was here for a month in the summer and longer stays during the year, he announced during the week that he is going to move over give up a good job he is a Police Officer we have discussed this at lenght for months so it wasnt a shock im just scared that he will resent me as he worked very hard to get into the Police he will get a lump sum when he leaves so there is no pressure to get a job but long term i am scared he might get depressed living in civi street

Any advice welcome

Thanks

CDfm

OP -its not a good time to move to Ireland. Havent you noticed the recession and what are his job prospects?

Have you worked out the alternatives maybe of you going there?

What do you do and how are you fixed financially?

Terodil

Giving up a secure job without having anything else lined up is economic suicide.

CDfm

Has he concidered a move to PSNI maybe it wouldnt be as much of a commute?

LegacyUser

Yes i have noticed the recession i asked for advice not sarcasiam.

I am in the emergency services too we are in an excellent financial situation thankfully my concern was if he wasnt happy would it be a huge strain how could i be supportive as he adjusts.

We have spoken about me going there but here we have a home etc and a better standard of living, PSNI is an option but its getting a little hairy again for the PSNI

Terodil

ihopeitworksout wrote: »

Yes i have noticed the recession i asked for advice not sarcasiam.

Who was sarcasiamic?

Yes if he doesn't have a job here it's going to have a huge impact on his psyche most probably, even if he doesn't realise it yet. More probably than not, this will put a serious strain on your relationship. It's not just the work aspect of it, it's also the networks side and his self-worth side.

Hence the advice to make sure he has a job here before making the jump. You cannot (substantially) help him beyond that because it's essential life concepts (friendships, self-worth) on the line here.

FYI I am in a similar position. I have a well-paid and very secure job where I am now, yet I am planning to move to Ireland, where my heart is. But I'd be beyond stupid to make that jump without having a safe place to land on.

murraymarmalade

surley he has considered taking leave of absence instead of just jacking it in?

CDfm

ihopeitworksout wrote: »

We have spoken about me going there but here we have a home etc and a better standard of living, PSNI is an option but its getting a little hairy again for the PSNI

I wasn't being sarcastic but would he be happy working as a security guard or a bouncer if all came to all.

He should apply for PSNI even if he doesnt take it.

Chucky the tree

Why can't he apply for the Gardai?

username123

Chucky the tree wrote: »

Why can't he apply for the Gardai?

Because there is a recruitment freeze in place, no new recruits, no promotions, no movement at all due to the recession.

Op - if you guys want it to work someone is going to have to make a move, it has to be between the two of ye who should make that move. At the moment he has a great job, I dont doubt it would be a difficult adjustment for him to arrive in Ireland in a recession from a good job and find little prospects. What about you moving over to him or both of ye going somewhere else for a fresh start?