Wedding Gift

lalaog

I am travelling to New York for my cousins wedding in October and not too sure what the custom is about giving wedding presents. I have asked but they say making the trip from Ireland is enough, but I feel like I should still give them something. They are not the type to buy into the 'made in Ireland'. Any suggestions? If I give money how much is acceptable and what looks mean?

How Strange

How about some handmade ceramics - a vase, bowl, serving plate. You could carry them in hand luggage and even if they aren't into the Oirishy type things ceramics are gorgeous.

Terpsichore

Well of course it all depends of you guys!
IMHO
EUR15.00 is mean. (I've seen it happening!)
EUR50.00 to EUR100.00 sounds average.
EUR200.00 + is too much, unless it's a very close family member or friend...
Watch out for current exchange rate with USD!

jimmyendless

What I hear is 150e is the standard gift and higher if they are part of your close family. I have a family wedding tomorrow and its probably gonna be 150e from me.

littlebsci

I know how you feel about not being sure about how much cash to give.

My boyfriend and I are going to his friend's wedding in Spain in mid October and they've said they want cash. So far we've spent more than €300 each on flights, accomodation and car rental for the few days we're over there and we've still to factor in the cost of the gift :eek:.

Given that we were at another one of his friend's weddings last week, the overall cost of actually getting to the one in Spain and the fact that October is a hectic month in general for us we're pretty tight on money at the moment. For previous weddings we would have given anything in the region of €80 - €120 per person but this time we just can't afford that. We're now debating whether to give them €100 or €150 from the two of us and we're basically afraid that we're going to look ridiculously scabby if we give the lower of the two.

I know plenty of people in this forum have said give what you can afford but there's still the fear that doing that will make us look mean. We're not, I swear.....just horribly broke right now!

WesternNight

The last few weddings I've been to it's been either €50 or €100. That said, if it were me getting married I really wouldn't be offended by getting €10 or €15 either. I wouldn't be offended if someone gave me no present at all.

Whatever about when money was floating around everywhere...nowadays I wouldn't be expecting ANY money...never mind €150 per person/couple...that's a bit crazy to expect that. I mean, if you're able to give it and you want to give it, then that's fine.

I think if you're paying for your own flight/accommodation etc to be at someone's wedding then there's no need for a gift. Or just a small one. It seems like your friends don't expect a present on top of that, so I wouldn't worry about it too much.

How Strange

I usually give €100. I personally think that's enough. I'm getting married soon and I wouldn't expect people to give more than that and considering most people are a little poorer these days I think giving €50 is fine.

We're inviting our friends and family to celebrate our wedding, we're not holding them ransom and expecting them to inadvertently pay for the day.

axel rose

Hold on a cotton picking minute! Don't lose the run of yourself Op. You have taken your holidays, spent a fair whack of cash on flights accommodation, clothes, spends etc and you feel you should spend MORE money on a present! :eek:

Its a wedding invite not a speeding fine. As a bride who got married abroad we meant it sincerely when we said that my guests presence was better than any present we could have received.

Enii

The fact that you are travelling over to NY to the wedding is enough.....

however a small token would be nice also....maybe an Irish style christmas decoration with their family name on it to hang on their tree?

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