Interested in second date?

LegacyUser

Hey I went on a first date tonight with this girl i met a few weeks ago through a friend and it went really well. No awkward silences or anything and plenty of laughs and chats. I think it went pretty well but i'm not sure if she is actually interested in meeting up again. I think i will give her a text and see if she would like to meet up again but i was wondering if anyone has any tips on how one might know if she is interested in meeting me again?

Thanks in advance.

Wibbs

How do you know? Was there any indication that she wasn't, or did you give off any vibes that you weren't? Just ask her I'd say. She'll give you the answer. I think we all(or most of us) tend to complicate this stuff. I suppose if you've been burned before an you're a little jaded by the dating scene, then many, men and woman, can be reticent to put their necks on the line. I would still say just ask her out again and see where that takes you both. First dates are often(if not usually) a little awkward, or if not one or both aren't sure if it's worth anther punt, so put any of that behind you. Just ask her out again basically.





Repeating hypnotic theme above just ask her out again:)

LadyJ

Confusedalittle wrote: »

i was wondering if anyone has any tips on how one might know if she is interested in meeting me again?

Asking her would be a start...

Liam Byrne

Been there earlier this year, with a pretty good first date, and got a no for the second.

Not trying to put you off, mind; just pointing out that you can never tell what's in someone else's head.

That said, nothing ventured nothing gained, and better to ask and find out than sit there wondering.

If the first one went as well as you say, then she could well say yes!

And if she says no, then don't take it personally, view it as her loss and put it behind you; no point in wanting to be around someone who doesn't want to be around you.

Best of luck!

LegacyUser

If I was the girl in that situation, I would love to get some kind of a flattering text message, maybe tomorrow....telling me how wonderful and beautiful I am, and that you really enjoyed my company, and that you hope work/college isn't too stressful. That way there is freedom to respond without the necessity to. Maybe in a day or two call her telling her you would love to take her out...

I went on a date with a guy...and there really wasn't going to be a second one. In the days after it He said all the right things, and was very respectful, and showed his generosity...and he is now well in there in my good books.
Like the others said...you do have to ask her...but i don't think you need ask that question tomorrow! Good luck

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice everyone. I did text her saying I had a nice night and asked about some plans she had told me about just to be nice. She texted back a few days later but didn't mention the date. I then texted her again the next day asking if she would like to meet up again sometime and i wished her a nice weekend.

She texted back about 5 days later telling me about her weekend but never answered if she wanted to meet up again.

I am presuming she isn't interested which is cool but how come she is texting back and chatting and just not saying thanks but no thanks? Can't figure it out.

shellyboo

Confusedalittle wrote: »

I am presuming she isn't interested which is cool but how come she is texting back and chatting and just not saying thanks but no thanks? Can't figure it out.

Meh, some women like the attention of having a guy interested in them. Cut her loose, she doesn't want to see you again. Preserve your sanity!

minidazzler

shellyboo wrote: »

Meh, some women like the attention of having a guy interested in them. Cut her loose, she doesn't want to see you again. Preserve your sanity!

+1
I agree 100%, I have been through this ringer many times, it sucks, Cut contact OP.

shellyboo

minidazzler wrote: »

+1
I agree 100%, I have been through this ringer many times, it sucks, Cut contact OP.

In fact, I don't know why I said *some* women... ALL women like the attention of having a guy interested in them. Everyone likes to be liked!

SOME women, however, are cruel enough to lead said guy on for an ego boost, even though they're not interested. Any decent girl would set you straight and let you go on your merry way - the fact that she hasn't given you a straight answer gives me 'headwrecker' warning bells.

G-Money

She's not interested. Delete her number and move on.

I was in this situation before. Met a girl, sparks, everything went well. We were due to meet up again and about a week after we met she just went cold. Just like that out of the blue. Such a waste of time. Can't stand fickle women.

daisybelle2008

She is trying to be polite and friendly but letting you know she does not want anything more. After one date don't expect a big explanation and get the message. You did the right thing, just wasn't meant to be. Least you tried.