Her ex sending me mails...

Lamps

Ok, so my girlfriends ex sent ME a mail on facebook (have never even spoke to the guy) telling me i better look after her or he'll crack my skull open, that hes still madly in love with her and its my fault hes not with her, bla bla bla etc

They were with each other 6 years and are broke up a good year and half now, they broke up on bad terms. Im mad about my girlfriend and shes the same.

What do i do, im pissed of here and dying to wb and tell him to **** right off. But trying to be cool about it to for my girlfriends sake, is it better just to ignore it?

Any advice her would be great thanks.

CDfm

What you should do is report the email to Facebook adminstrators and they can do what they do and block him etc.

Sinall

Be the bigger man, ignore it. Your girlfriend knows the truth of the matter (and so does he!). Getting into a verbal tit-for-tat with him could mean that this will drag on for ages and grow legs and become a massive deal. Obviously it's annoying for you, but treat it like it's insignificant. I completely understand the desire to retaliate but I think you will come out of it better if you don't!

Wibbs

I'd defo be in the ignore camp. I know your bloods up, mine would be too TBH, but I would also stand back and look at what her ex is doing and what he wants. IMHO he's either trying to show his "power" over you and her or if he's got some brains, hoping to get you to freak out knowing this would get your GF riled up.

Ignore it for what it is. Possessive guff by a guy who screwed his chances and is now trying to screw yours. He's not worth your emotional focus.

Liam Byrne

If anyone suggests that they'll "crack your skull open", in whatever context, I'd report them to the site administrators and possibly to the Gardai.

But that's entirely up to you.

At the very least, I'd avail of the "Block User" facility :

http://wiki.answers.com/Q/How_do_you_block_a_user_on_Facebook

Darthhoob

ignore him, don't rise to him. he is only messaging you cos he obviously has nothing better to do and can't accept that she has moved on...he's trying to break you two up. completely ignore him so he can see you are not intimidated....and that he isn't worth it.

also report him to admin of facebook

ogriofa

Defo sleep on it

Lamps

Thats for the advice people, ive chilled out a bit and defo think it will wreck his head if i ignore him, but also think that he might get a moral victory...as in hes put me in my place and im afraid to reply to him. Will sleep on it though.

Should i tell the other half, it will really piss her off but id like to know if my ex did the same to her?

Sinall

I would tell your girlfriend, because he might bring it up to use it against you down the line so its best that she has all the information!

I see your point about the moral victory but I think it would be more irritating and frustrating for him if you don't reply. It will look like you can't be bothered dealing with such nonsense.

ogriofa

Sinall wrote: »

I would tell your girlfriend, because he might bring it up to use it against you down the line so its best that she has all the information!

I see your point about the moral victory but I think it would be more irritating and frustrating for him if you don't reply. It will look like you can't be bothered dealing with such nonsense.

+1

Also, he's abviously a bit of a dick, if he bumps into her he could bring it up and you not telling her turns into you keeping it from her rather than what he did.

Be a regular fonzy and this'll blow over
Good luck

aidan24326

Don't reply. He was looking to provoke a reaction so don't give him what he wants. Just block him on facebook, that way he can't message you anymore. As for whether to tell your girlfriend or not, I don't know. I'm in two minds about that one. On the one hand maybe she deserves to know, on the other hand if you tell her it might only cause a rumpus with her and the ex, and I'm sure you'd rather she just had nothing to do with him. Might be better to ignore him and just forget about it.

Liam Byrne

Lamps wrote: »

....think that he might get a moral victory...as in hes put me in my place and im afraid to reply to him

Then he's deluded; you can "put him in his place" by making it clear that it's not worth your while even replying; and if you've any doubts, remember that she's put him in his place by dumping him (and considering what he's like with messages like that, I'm not surprised).

Lamps wrote: »

Should i tell the other half, it will really piss her off but id like to know if my ex did the same to her?

Tough one. I probably wouldn't because if she gets thick with him and tells him off, he'll know he got to you.

Lamps

Ok im going to sleep on it.

But im trying so hard not to reply here, nobody talks to me like that and gets away with it.

Liam Byrne

Lamps wrote: »

Ok im going to sleep on it.

But im trying so hard not to reply here, nobody talks to me like that and gets away with it.

I understand the sentiment, but as a good friend recently said to me about an opinion someone had of me - "why do you care" ?

You should only care about the opinon that friends (and maybe other decent people) have of you; not other, irrelevant people or those whose opinion is dictated by their agenda.

And someone who threatens people is not a decent, relevant person.

So calm down, sleep on it, and put what he said in the context of a random idiot with an agenda that he'll never fulfil - unless you rise to his bait and do something that could potentially jeopardise your relationship.

As a few people have said - block him on Facebook so that what he says becomes the random ramblings of a lonely idiot talking and venting to himself.

OS119

Lamps wrote: »

Ok im going to sleep on it.

But im trying so hard not to reply here, nobody talks to me like that and gets away with it.

he's not getting away with it - you're boning (excuse the vulgarity) the girl he wants to be with. he gets that mental image every time he hits a few cans of special brew and sends you snotty emails.

block him, and do tell your OH - she has a right to know if her ex is getting a bit aggressive, not least for her own safety - and forget about him.

CDfm

OP your an adult -its what adults do when they get threatened is to get the guy blocked and report it.

Your g/f may have split with the guy because he is agressive and you should tell her. In a kind of a nonchalant way like btw -your ex contacted my facebook must have had a few brews - leave it at that if she wants to know more she will ask.

ladygirl

I would defo take the higher ground and ignore this, he IS looking to get a reaction out of you!!! show your girlfriend the msg and then block him from your page, this is obviously bothering him big time and he is out to cause trouble,, so best leave him to fight with himself,,, ignoring him WILL get to him more than any witty comment you can send him, he will also realise he was a muppet to send such a comment in the first place,,