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Age difference question

  • 23-09-2009 6:45pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
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    I am a male of 19, and I have a female friend who is 26. I am mad about her, was just wondering what people would think of this age gap?? I think it's probably a bit much but I'd rather not think that :) Any opinions welcome


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  • #2
    Monkey61
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,137 ✭✭✭Monkey61


    Exact same age gap as my relationship except I am the older party. It is absolutely fine, although it did take me a lot of getting used to and I do fear problems arising in the future due to differing places in life and stuff, but I'm not going to throw away something great over that.

    The main problems as I see them are

    - If one person is earning and one is in college for instance, vastly different incomes can become a huge problem. My girlfriend never has money..ever. So she either can't do anything that involves money or I have to pay, which can be difficult because I earn around minimum wage.

    - One person wanting to settle down a lot sooner. I always saw myself married, buying a house with a partner and starting to have kids in 5 years time, but if I am with her then, it certainly won't be that soon.

    - The fear for the elder person that the younger will probably get bored of them a lot sooner and will want to go out and experience more life things that the elder has already done.

    - Just general different life stuff. My girlfriend still lives at home and isn't even in college yet. Coming down to breakfast in the morning and chatting to her parents and all that feels a bit weird at my age and I would rather not have to do that... While she is mature for her age, her friends are essentially school children and seem very very young to me.

    But, you know, you just have to do whatever makes you happy. If she is already your friend she obviously doesn't think you are miles away from her world. Go for it. You never know, it could be amazing!


  • #3
    Pinky Pixie
    Closed Accounts Posts: 241 ✭✭Pinky Pixie


    I know plenty of girls that have no problem with a younger guy. Personally I don't think I would be able for the age gap mainly based on the difference in life experience. But if you think she is interested go for it :) Best of luck :)


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