Pr*ck Tease

LegacyUser

How does a girl get rid of her reputation as a pr*ck tease? Totally undeserved I might add.
I can't believe that in this day and age adult males will still resort to such pathetic name calling when a girl will not jump into bed with them on the 1st or 2nd date.
Is this all men in Ireland in their 20's are looking for... a girl who puts out asap?
I thought the term pr*ck tease was just something teenage boys used to throw at an attractive girl who was well out of their league.

I've never experienced that. Where are you meeting these guys? Anyone I've been with has been happy to wait a few weeks at least, until a relationship has started. Those guys sound really immature.

LegacyUser

isobella12 wrote: »

How does a girl get rid of her reputation as a pr*ck tease? Totally undeserved I might add.
I can't believe that in this day and age adult males will still resort to such pathetic name calling when a girl will not jump into bed with them on the 1st or 2nd date.
Is this all men in Ireland in their 20's are looking for... a girl who puts out asap?
I thought the term pr*ck tease was just something teenage boys used to throw at an attractive girl who was well out of their league.

You can only develop a reputation with people you know. If you are having 1 or 2 dates with guys they are not part of your circle and cannot affect your reputation.
You go on a couple of dates and you don't put out, they get angry and call you that, so you never see them again end of story, how is it giving you a reputation.

I know a few pr*ick teases, girls in their 30's with long term boyfriends who throw themselves at men repeatedly year in year out. Run when the lad makes a move, they only want to know they could get the person, to make up for a lack of confidence self esteem.

NickNolte

isobella12 wrote: »

How does a girl get rid of her reputation as a pr*ck tease?

Leave the social circle that labelled her a prick tease in the first place.

LegacyUser

NickNolte wrote: »

Leave the social circle that labelled her a prick tease in the first place.

It's not as simple as leaving the social scene. That would mean a radical change - moving out of my town, finding a whole set of new friends, etc. Besides, why should I have to change my life because of these pathetic, immature men.

It seems all the guys round my own age ( 23 ) are just out for one night stands and flings. And when they don't get it, the silly label Pr*ck Tease is attached to the girl. This then puts off the odd genuine lad. Sure, not all men are after this, but I find the one's who want relationships are usually much older than me, ande to be honest I'm just not interested in dating an older man.

It seems I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place!

Darthhoob

men (in general) start to want a relationship aged 25-30, so an 'older' man wouldn't necessarily be that much older. but still you shouldn't have to date older guys. there are alot of younger men out there wanting to date/have a relationship, you just seem to be meeting the wrong ones. not sure where you are looking but perhaps change that?
and dont worry about being called such a stupid name when you are doing what you want to do when it comes to sex. should never feel pressure to put out :mad:

tbh if peeps know you as a prick tease the most it'll do if fend off stupid men like the ones you are meeting and leave way to nicer more deserving men

Terodil

I agree with the preposters. Calling somebody a prick tease because she doesn't fall over instantly is immature and you'd be better off without, or at least ignoring, men that do.

That said though, if this is a recurring and consistent theme with a *lot* of men around you, then maybe it would be worth taking a step back also and taking a look at the signals you're sending off. On the one hand, of course, it may be that you're just so stunningly attractive that post-pubertarian boys get frustrated by just looking at you and then immaturely call you names to reduce the sting of failed hope. On the other hand, it may be that you're inadvertently giving off signs that you would not want to if you knew how they were received. Do you have any good (but non-romantic) male friends that you could talk to about this? To give you an honest opinion how they perceive you, your body language, your communicative behaviour?

kittenkiller

Hi OP.

Sorry to hear about your situation.
I'd have to agree with Terodil above.
It's very possible that if more than a few guys have labelled you as this, that there may be something that's leading them to think they're in with a very good shot of getting some action.

It's terribly immature to resort to calling names and spreading rumours though.

Maybe what you'd class as flirty is being picked up as slutty (I hate that word, sorry)?
Ask a good friend to be honest with you.

Best of luck.

shellyboo

What actually happened, OP? More information would be helpful. I'm sure you know well yourself that not all men are out for one-night stands, and that they're not all that immature... so what's the real issue?

LegacyUser

shellyboo wrote: »

What actually happened, OP? More information would be helpful. I'm sure you know well yourself that not all men are out for one-night stands, and that they're not all that immature... so what's the real issue?

Yes, I do know not all men are out for one night stands, or are immature... it only seems to be the one's I like or the ones who like me. I honestly don't know why this is.

Yes, I have stepped back and had a look at myself and my behavior... I, in my own view am just a normal 23 year old girl who loves to go out with my friends and am open to meeting a nice guy. I don't do the one night stand thing, got all that out of my system in my late teens, even then I wasn't big into it. I would consider myself fun and flirty, but nomore so than most of my friends. I am most definately not slutty. Why would men consider me slutty when I give off no obvious slutty vibes?

The pr*ck tease reference has been thrown at me more than once... by guys who fancy me and tried to get me into bed, and when I wouldn't they throw a strop and get the word round to all their mates and esp to one particular guy who I am very interested in.
I have heard back from a mutual friend that this guy I fancy will not have anything to do with me because he has heard from his mates that I lead them on and then nothing, ie-pr*ck tease. I have never intentionally led any man on. If I like a guy I will go on a few dates with him, let him know I like him by being fun and flirty, most definately not slutty or suggestive.

I just don't get why they all want a shag and not to develop things in another way? It has put me off going out for nights with my friends now. It's the same old everynight. Why can it not be easy to meet nice guys, who are good looking, genuine, fun and interested in more than a quick one? Maybe it's just i have too high standards!!!

Darthhoob

NEVER lower your standards to suit them, do what suits you.
It seems alot of these men you meet on nights out? i think that may be the main problem. nights out are generally a meat market, sex is usually expected if numbers are exchanged or show you are interested in someone. most people out in clubs are not really looking for dates and a relationship, they are looking to get their leg over..you happen to be one who isn't.
i think you need to look at other ways to hook up with guys (dunno whether you do or not, i just picked up on the nights out).

pisslips

This guy you like, could you see yourself sleeping with him on the first or second date?

How would you feel if he was probably only interested in a fling?
Would you still persue it?

Will you still persue it?

shellyboo

Ok, OP, I think there's probably more to this than you're letting on, but based on what you've said, I'll say this: the fact that all these men are in your circle of friends has a lot to do with your problem.

You've flirted, but not slept with, a few guys within one circle of lads? That will earn you the title of pricktease.

But here's the kicker - had you slept with them all, you'd have earned yourself a reputation as being easy.

That's just how it works in social groups. If you want it to stop, stop being flirty with these guys and reserve that for men you're particularly interested in. This could be an even bigger problem if you're really hot, actually.

Also, pubs and clubs are not the place to meet boyfriends. They're meat markets.

LegacyUser

shellyboo wrote: »

That's just how it works in social groups. If you want it to stop, stop being flirty with these guys and reserve that for men you're particularly interested in. This could be an even bigger problem if you're really hot, actually.

Well, I don't think I'm particularly hot, I'm just another attractive girl in my view! However the guys have also labled me the local Megan Fox!!! How scarely immature are they!!! I think they expect if you are good looking and have a fit body that you must be just looking for sex. It's bloody ridiculous!

Now, because of the few mindless fools I have absolutely no chance with the lad I like. He won't even text me anymore, and we used to get on great, even though he was a bit shy with me. He believes his mates silly rumors and see's me as a tease. Her's not gonna take that risk.

I have met and liked other guys from outside of this social group, but pursuing a relationship with them is not an option as they all live too far away.

I think I'm doomed.

shellyboo

isobella12 wrote: »

Well, I don't think I'm particularly hot, I'm just another attractive girl in my view! However the guys have also labled me the local Megan Fox!!! How scarely immature are they!!! I think they expect if you are good looking and have a fit body that you must be just looking for sex. It's bloody ridiculous!

Now, because of the few mindless fools I have absolutely no chance with the lad I like. He won't even text me anymore, and we used to get on great, even though he was a bit shy with me. He believes his mates silly rumors and see's me as a tease. Her's not gonna take that risk.

I have met and liked other guys from outside of this social group, but pursuing a relationship with them is not an option as they all live too far away.

I think I'm doomed.

Wait... so you won't date ANYONE outside of this certain social group? Way to limit your options. And seeing as you think they're all immature... why would you want to date them anyway?

Seriously, I get the feeling you quite enjoy the attentions of these "immature" boys, but now you're sore that your flirting has put the one guy you did like off you...


You can't have it all ways. Distance yourself from the immature guys and go for something that's not as easy, but more worthwhile.

IndigoStarr

You really can't be complaining to be honest. You can't flirt with all the guys in your social group, then pout when they call you a prick tease, then limit yourself to dating only these guys.
You really need to open your options up. Relying on the same group of guys, especially ones you've dated already, is a bad idea.

LegacyUser

isobella12 wrote: »

Now, because of the few mindless fools I have absolutely no chance with the lad I like. He won't even text me anymore, and we used to get on great, even though he was a bit shy with me. He believes his mates silly rumors and see's me as a tease. Her's not gonna take that risk.

You call them 'mindless fools' they call you 'pri*ck tease', Karma. These are the guys you dated and the mate of the lad you like.
Forget about the label, if you dates a few of his friends he probably wouldn't be interested in you anyway.

isobella12 wrote: »

I think I'm doomed.

Or you could simply change how you behave in future

matt-dublin

I would have though the term pr*ck tease would come from the fact that a girl is seemingly interested in someone, advancing, flirtatious and then when it comes down to it it turns out that she's not interested.

IME anyway!

ash23

From what I can tell from your posts OP, you have flirted with, dated and possibly kissed quite a few guys from a small pool. You are also interested in another one of this pool who you have been texting.
However, you date them, then drop them? Would that be right?

They are idiots obviously but your behaviour isn't helping matters. Broaden your horizons a bit. Stop dating Billy and all his mates.