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I dont know If I can trust anymore

  • 20-09-2009 2:26pm
    #1
    Penny Lane!
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31 ✭


    I spent over 2 years in a very violent abusive realationship where the man in question did a lot to hurt me physically and emotionally. Although physically I'm heeled emotionally I'm a wreck.

    I have a brilliant boyfriend now, I love him so much but lately I've been feeling that I can't trust him either. My ex cheated on me regularly and now I can't help thinking the same will happen again. That I will never find that I can trust my boyfriend.

    It's only the last few weeks that I've been having these doubts and fears. I love him so much I don't want to lose him. But I know I am ruining our relationship with this.

    And I know it's my fault.

    Some days I wonder if I can even take this anymore, if there isn't an easy way out to stop the hurt.


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  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    you need to get a grip and move on. I mean this in the nicest possible way, if you don;t your going to lose this guy and be alone.

    Whatever you have to do to get over it do it. Start tomorrow, its the beginning of the rest of your life.

    Good lcuk


  • #3
    Liam Byrne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 18,163 ✭✭✭✭Liam Byrne


    If someone's given you a reason not to trust them, then fair enough.

    If someone hasn't, but knows your past experiences, they will try to make some allowances, but it will eventually wear them down and they'll need to get out.

    You've said it yourself; you are ruining your relationship.

    If the relationship is worth it, then you'll need to change; otherwise you're subconsciously saying that you don't think it's worth it.


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