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LegacyUser

Hey guys basically I have moved away from home to start uni in the UK but things aren't going so great. I really miss home, i miss my boyfriend and i'm not sure if I want to stay over here anymore. The thing is if I move home it'll be back to being unemployed with no future prospects. While if i stay here i am guaranteed a job and career next year. But i don't know whats more important to stay here and focus on my career or to go home and be with the people I love!

SarahSassy

These days you need your education and some job experience to get anywhere. Dont come home for the sake of a man, you have your whole life ahead of you to be in relationships.

LegacyUser

I'm feeling the same way, like nothing will ever ever make me like the place I'm in university. I miss my family, my friends, my boyfriend, my dogs even my car! I'm hateing every minute of it so far and I've got 4 years of this ahead of me. I'm hoping that it will change soon because when I went to university first I felt homesick for a few days but after that I never looked back. This feels different. Firstly I didn't have a boyfriend when I was getting my first degree. And secondly I made friends within the first few days first time around, not so this time. I've already started another thread on this so you may find some good advice there

LegacyUser

You can always come home for weekends and holidays. Life is about experiences and I am sure the UK will get better as you meet more people and go out and do things. You have the rest of your life to stay at home if you choose to work around there.

I felt the same way as you when I started college (and that was in the same country), looking back I can understand why I felt that way but honestly it is shortlived. It will get better quick enough, dont pack it in. Experience life in another country, go for it. Just embrace it.

Firetrap

Hey, I know how you feel. I can still remember very vividly how upset and lonely I felt when I first started university. And my home place was only an hour down the road! It was hell on earth for me at the time and I used to live for the weekends so that I could get outta there and back home to my family and friends. I'm so glad I toughed it out though because after a while I settled down and ended up having a great time.

It would be all too easy for you to chicken out and come home. But like you said, to what? It might not feel like it now but the college year is pretty short. It's not as if you can't come home for mid-term or Christmas etc? Or for weekends. And then there's the phone, MSN, Skype etc. All these different ways for you to talk to your loved ones.

How about trying to look at things differently? That it's an adventure for the year and you're in a country where there's lots to see and do. Lots of people you can meet in the college and befriend. Expand your social circle. Take up a new sport or interest. It's all in how you look at it. Try not to go for the safe option. If you stick it out for the year and get your exams, you will be so proud of yourself. So too will be your family.

LegacyUser

Thanks for all the reply's guys. The thing is its a postgrad im doing. I had to move away from home to do my degree and that wasnt an issue at all. Its just apart from being unemployed at home i was perfectly happy but over here I just am not. Ive started getting panic attacks and just cry my self to sleep. I know things might get better but what if they dont, what if ive made a massive mistake by moving here. ill only know once its too late. I know theres no easy decision but I just wish things were better.

LegacyUser

thats hard, i feel sorry for you OP. What i would say is decide to give it more time...like a month or something. Give yourself a deadline. Then for the rest of that time tell yourself that you will wholeheartedly throw yourself into it and try to make the best of it. If after doing that you're still miserable, then go back home. There are other options..like the Open uni for example where you might be able to study a similar course while being at home.

I think if you're crying yourself to sleep at night its not worth it to be honest and theres no shame is saying it's not for me and going home. That doesnt make you a quitter at all. But by giving yourself a deadline then you have something to keep your spirits up i.e. - instead of thinking ughhh im gonna be here for 1/2 years, you can just think im going to be here for a month. You might surprise yourself and end up liking it after the month is up.