Indecisive GF

LegacyUser

Hey, looking for some advice on my relationship.

I've been with my GF for nearly a year now. We're both 20. When I met her, she was working in Ireland on a one-year contract. At the time I met her, she was planning on staying and working in Ireland for the forseeable future. She was looking into other jobs and we even talked about moving in together.

A few months before her contract expired in July, instead of staying in Ireland as she had previously planned, she opted to return to Switzerland (where she's from). Her plans had changed: now she wanted to go to college.

She had only finished her second level education in Switzerland. At the time that she finished her secondary education, she decided to travel through Europe for two years instead of going to college then.

Since July, she's been in Switzerland living with her family. I visited her recently and she was excited about going to college but in the weeks since I've returned home, she's changed her mind twice.

The day after I got home, she rang me to say that she was looking into getting her old job in Ireland back and that she'd be back in a few weeks time.

Today she rang to tell me that she was in fact going to go to stay in Switzerland and go to college.

In our relationship, I've become used to her being indecisive. More often than not, I have to decide what we're doing or where we are going, etc. I've become used to this and, tbh, I don't really mind.

However, her indecisiveness regarding major decisions is drives me mad. I love this girl but it is very hard for me to have an idea what kind of future we will have together when she changes her mind so frequently.

She believes she needs to get a college education but she doesn't want to go through it. She's dreading the time it will take and just wants it to be over asap. I have two years left of college so I'm tied down to Ireland until then. I don't have any ideas what I'll do when I'm finished college but I still have plenty of time.

I don't pressure her and I try to support her when she says she'll be doing someting but lately I've begun to feel like it's too hard to keep up with her.

My main worry is in the future she won't be able to make her mind up about things and this will lead to me making the major decisions which will affect us both and may ultimately leave her unhappy. This kind of pressure is upsetting me and I don't know how to get it across to her.

rallye

Shes 20!!

They are all indecisive at that age im afraid and nothing you can do or say will change this.

Tell her your plans, lay them all out on the table and if she wishes to be part of them then she will.