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nervous about moving

  • 18-09-2009 9:04pm
    #1
    scarymoon1
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    im moving into a new house soon and a new area and collge - so its all new! but in my last house i sometimes felt like i didnt want to be in the way - even though i was paying rent. The new house im moving into the woman was made redundant so she will be there alot - i know il feel like im intruding and should not be there, even though im paying rent! How do i avoid these feelings?


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  • #2
    reesa
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22 ✭reesa


    tbh with you this is not a good situation for a young college student and i would try to get out of it if i could.

    My first year of college in Dublin - i lived in digs with a family - the husband was made redundant - and it was a nightmare (the daughter made me feel so unwelcome) - i felt completely like an imposition - the only reason i was living there was because they needed the money and i felt it.

    You need to share a house or a apartment with other students but you probably know that already.


  • #3
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭scarymoon1


    ive done the college thing already for 4 years- im jst going back part time for a few months, so i wont be out at parties etc. but she seemed nice and all - im just worried she will be there all day every day and she might not want me there the whole time either - maybe im just paranoid???


  • #4
    reesa
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22 ✭reesa


    scarymoon1 wrote: »
    ive done the college thing already for 4 years- im jst going back part time for a few months, so i wont be out at parties etc. but she seemed nice and all - im just worried she will be there all day every day and she might not want me there the whole time either - maybe im just paranoid???

    well - if just for a few months - you'll be in college or the library for most of the time - i don't see how it's gonna be a problem - she knows it's just for a few months right?


  • #5
    Firetrap
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,442 ✭✭✭Firetrap


    It all depends on who you're sharing with and how they make you feel. With some owner occupiers, yes you do feel like you're an intruder. Some others though are great at making it feel like home and include you in things.

    If you're not happy where you are, you can always try to find another place that doesn't have an owner occupier in it. There's no point in paying rent for somewhere you don't feel comfortable in.


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi OP,

    It could work out for you if you just want quiet space at home to study and reflect,


    Some people love living with people and they may like the extra bit of company around,

    If its only for a while suss it out and see what she is like, make your room your sanctuary, Gud luck xx


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