SO, first date then ...not sure!

LegacyUser

well I met this guy about 2 weeks ago, hit it off nicely, been texting like school kids for few days couldnt wait to meet up til our first date...he is a genuine guy, its easy to see, no games, didnt wait whatever days after we met ot ask me out, actually asked me out the next day...anyway, got a bit of conversation going over the phone before our first date and he has not hide anything from me, hes early 30s and he was into a long, long relatinoship, about 8 years or bit longer and even engaged last year, house together etc...broke up mutually as they realised it wasnt what they wanted. (mind you they had broken up few times during all those years)
she is a bit younger than him although i really didnt want to ask more about it, too soon and not my place. Did ask however if he was ready to date as its been 6 months since their break up. Also asked how often they were in touch and he said he didnt believe in being friends with ex and that they were only talking when discussing the house/ money issues, in good terms.
Ok , so long story short I found out he only has been with 3 girls in his life, including his last gf! a bit of a shoke as it is pretty rare but ok.
SO we had our first date, very exciting, good times...then another date 2 days later, invited me over his place, got me floweres...very caring and romantic, didnt hide that he likes me since me met.
The thing is, we did ended up spending the night together, no sex but heavy action, i was supposed to stay in the guest room but obviously with some drinks i stayed in the bedroom.
NOW i know what few might say, too fast etc..i hate myself for lettign myself get into that situation that night, wished i had more common sense im not a teeenager anymore but oh well, i leave with the results and the results are that monday was nice, he was not overly affectionate but not distant either. i asked if he wanted ot meet up for coffee during the week as we work not far away from each other and he said yes sure, weds or thursday...
he texted me few times that day and tuesday, general thing, nothing deep or to make plans, just chats, so tueday afternoon i figured i should just ask away if he wanted ot meet again as i was a bit confused and didnt want to wait around to be honest.
SO i asked during a chat text " did you want to meet again or not really as im not sure howe you think" he replied "yes i would like to, how bout you? im super busy this week and this weekend too tho" ....so im pprobably reading too much into it but i keep thinking that maybe spendign the night at his place in the bed he shared with the girl he ws once engaged was probably a click for him or something...i dont know, thats how i feel cos since we texted tuesday, i did reply that i was going away next week but maybe as he is busy we could meet next week before i go and he said yes it would be great it was good for him.
Im a bit sad that he is not really planning on seeing me before but thats my issue i know not his, i guess what im concern about is that since that text where he reply yes for next week i havent heard anything from him, no texts.....
SO is that a bad sign, i mean i did ask if he wanted to meet again so im guessing if he didnt want to he would of say it as he doesnt seem to bull*** since we met he has been totally honest.
As it is thursday i was tempting to text and ask bout meeting for coffee but as he hasnt text at all since im thinking maybe jsut to let go and let him contact me, what you guys think??
think i just need opinions or advise really...i do like him and would like ot get to know him but dont wanna seem pushy at all.

sorry for the epic post!!

thanks for reading.

snowy2008

whats the panic in meeting up? he likes you, you like him, relax or he'll just see you as too eager and run a mile, deep breaths now

ManOfMystery

I think you like this guy a lot and your mind is thus working ovetime!

Just relax. He's told you he likes you, he appears to be a genuine guy and not a waster or player - so chances are he really is just very busy. Remember, you're the 'new' girl in his life and you have only met a few times, so he can't put everything on hold.

You don't want to appear to be hounding him .... he's been out of the game for 8-9 years so just relax and take it easy.

Good luck

LegacyUser

It sounds like he is interested in you but he probably just needs a bit of time to adjust to what is happening, so wait for him to contact you.

LegacyUser

Perhaps he's having a bit of a wibbly moment. And perhaps he is busy as well. Either way, I'd give him a bit of space and see what happens. Its not a particularly good sign in my humble opinion but I'm often wrong. Let him contact you.

LegacyUser

thanks for all your cooments, probably right in thinking too much about it, dont know why im like that to be honest, i never usually have issues...its just the stop of contact suddenly that got me thinking thats all...
so technicaly, how long is TOO long not hearing from him, sure he said yes to meet up next week when i asked so does this means im the one at some point to get back to him!?
i know he said his not experience in the whole dating as he never did, except for the girls who became his gfs! so 3 !! he doesnt seem too interested to go out meet girls and all so im not worry bout that, just wonder if by this weekend i should give me a shout thats all cos sure by monday it will be a week, and without contact i dont think i would be paranoid sayign its fishy.

thing is, i like him yes, but if he had said well you're nice BUT..etc.. i wouldnt go chase him, i would think alright fare game, cant force someone to want to see you so its kinda *** if he just didnt have the courage to say i need some time to adjust of whatever.
its not like im asking him to contact me all day everyday but i dont think im unreasonable to think a little text or call every couple days to just say hi....no?

SarahSassy

I would leave him to contact you at this stage. He sounds confused so let him off til he makes contact.