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Asked her out, did not get an answer

  • 15-09-2009 8:56pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭


    A while back I asked a girl out @ work, suggested we should go for a few drinks and stuff. She said she would get back to me about that, but she never did. Obviously she does not want to go out with me and that part I am ok with, rejection is no biggie. What I find hard to understand is why could she not give me a straight no to my face instead of saying she would get back to me and never get back to me?


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  • #2
    scarymoon1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 732 ✭✭✭scarymoon1


    ive learned from the majority of people here that no one wants to be rude to your face so they will lie - ( she said she will get back to you ) and then she doesnt so she doesnt have to be rude to you openly. Yes i agree its totally rude but i guess thats what goes with dating etc - you just gota suck it up unfortunately :(


  • #3
    Nevyn
    Closed Accounts Posts: 43,045 ✭✭✭✭Nevyn


    Maybe she was trying to be polite and on confrontational about it and not cause a scene as you work together.


  • #4
    Terodil
    Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Terodil


    Thaedydal wrote: »
    Maybe she was trying to be polite and on confrontational about it
    Non-confrontational does not mean a-confrontational. She should have been able to confront him and tell him face-to-face.

    OP: It happens =( you're probably better off without her. Get up and back on your horse now :)


  • #5
    VaioCruiser
    Closed Accounts Posts: 750 ✭✭✭VaioCruiser


    straightanswer wrote: »
    A while back I asked a girl out @ work, suggested we should go for a few drinks and stuff. She said she would get back to me about that, but she never did. Obviously she does not want to go out with me and that part I am ok with, rejection is no biggie. What I find hard to understand is why could she not give me a straight no to my face instead of saying she would get back to me and never get back to me?

    Most people are afraid of confrontation and are also afraid of using the "no" word.

    How long has it been ?


    .


  • #6
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,217 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    I'd be black and white about this personally. Yes or no. Piddle or get off the pot, my(and their) time's a wasting, otherwise "Next!". If she says she'll get back to you and doesn't well then that should tell you all you need to know. OK if shes not interested fine. That's grand, her choice and dead right too. If she doesn't say no upfront, well as Thaed said maybe she doesn't want to cause a fuss and that's fine too, she's trying to be nice. Actions inform me every time. Don't put much store in rolling it back and forth in your head, move on to other women who will say yes and back it up.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



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  • #7
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I will not ask her again, in fact I will avoid talking to her any more than is necessary to make work go smoothly. I lost alot of respect for her since she could not even be honest with me.

    When I asked her out, it was in private and it would have been easy for her to say no without causing a scene.


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