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LegacyUser

hi all, i need advice on how to stay the hell away from my ex.
we were together almost 2 years in total, he cheated on me in the past but begged me for a second chance & i gave in mostly because i missed him so much. however, i have tried to break up with him twice since as he admitted he has no interest in a future with me and i know this sounds stupid but it's like he has some hold over me and i don't know why!
he very recently admitted that he's not in love with me but he was happy to continue on the "relationship" as it was "nice for him to have someone around" and he "misses me too much when we're seperated"and even offered to book us a holiday... so i told him it was over... it killed me to say it but he didn't really seem to give a crap, like he knew i'd come running back? he even text me later that night after a few beers asking if i'd come over and if i missed the sex.
Problem is, this is only day 2 and i'm practically sitting on my hands to stop myself from texting/ringing him.... i even noticed today i was thinking up excuses to talk to him.
i know in theory i sound like a complete doormat/idiot and i don't get it, i'm not like that in any other aspect of my life and never behaved like this with any long term ex.
I'm not looking for criticism here i'm already aware and baffled by my own stupid behaviour (love does crazy things to people) but any ideas on how to stop myself from handing my soul up to him on a plate would be appreciated.
many thanks

SarahSassy

Block his number, seemingly its quite simple and then give someone your phone to mind. He is treating you like a dog (not even as good as) and you need to take some time to get your self respect back. You can do it as 'afterall he's just a man' and not worth losing your pride over.

krudler

lessofit wrote: »

hi all, i need advice on how to stay the hell away from my ex.
we were together almost 2 years in total, he cheated on me in the past but begged me for a second chance & i gave in mostly because i missed him so much. however, i have tried to break up with him twice since as he admitted he has no interest in a future with me and i know this sounds stupid but it's like he has some hold over me and i don't know why!
he very recently admitted that he's not in love with me but he was happy to continue on the "relationship" as it was "nice for him to have someone around" and he "misses me too much when we're seperated"and even offered to book us a holiday... so i told him it was over... it killed me to say it but he didn't really seem to give a crap, like he knew i'd come running back? he even text me later that night after a few beers asking if i'd come over and if i missed the sex.
Problem is, this is only day 2 and i'm practically sitting on my hands to stop myself from texting/ringing him.... i even noticed today i was thinking up excuses to talk to him.
i know in theory i sound like a complete doormat/idiot and i don't get it, i'm not like that in any other aspect of my life and never behaved like this with any long term ex.
I'm not looking for criticism here i'm already aware and baffled by my own stupid behaviour (love does crazy things to people) but any ideas on how to stop myself from handing my soul up to him on a plate would be appreciated.
many thanks

Theres your answer right there, go back to this guy and he'll own your ass, run like the wind!