Oh My god i feel like some eejitt..

whatausername

ok this is a bit of a rant at the same time now that i think of it. became single there at the start of the summer, not my decision but i accepted it and understood the whole situation. it wasnt a bad break up. any wayi used to be very good with finding women when i was like 19 (now 22). since i have become single i have noticed i just cant seem to find a girl. Now i do not go out looking for it i just head out with mates. most of whom are in relationships and it always just seems to end up a couples night come 1am.

was out last night, wasnt drinking now but went clubbing for one of the lads birthdays. i rarely dance but have lately just adopted the attitude of fukit. so any way was giving it sox on the dance floor, the usual looking like a catt having a siezure :pac: so any way i decided that im sick of the ol single life again, have been thinking that for a while but was certain last night. so any way i have come to the conclusion that im just plain useless at picking up women. i just freeze up. im convinced if i was looking at myself from an outside perspective it would look like an episode of the inbetweeners, very cringeworthy.
the dance floor was not too busy yet girls kept coming close to the group and bumping into me. i wasnt paying much attention for the first while but it was a regular occurence, one girl who i was keen on started dancing with a guy but kept moving back in front of me (about 8ft from the guy she was dancing with) she would flick her hair and move back to your man. i didn realise this until one of my friends pointed out (hes not the greatest for advice though) so any way im probably reading into this too much and now that i have it written it sounds like im twelve again haha.

so anyway a basic run down, how the hell can i approach people in a club with out looking like a fool. or even some tips on how to read body signals. im brutal with that. like when i asked my last gf out she said she had been waiting for me to ask her out for a good two hours. she was working and i just kept talking to her as i passed her.

oh and im not a bad looking guy apparently well according to those that know me, but then again my friends arent exactly going to say " oh man you look like a retarded donkey thats been hit by a train " :pac::pac:. best way to describe me is apparently i look like some guy called aidan from home & away. it happens alot when im out. dont know where people see it though!

Bloody Nipples

I know how you feel, if a girl is doing stuff like that then, you just need to pluck up the courage to approach her.
If you get knocked back then so be it, just don't give up on it.

Naked Lepper

relax, women can smell when you are nervous - there nothing you can do to hide it so the only advice is to just be yourself and have a good time

if you look like youre having a good time then people will want to spend time with you, if you look like a bag of nerves then people will avoid you

lynsalot

Hi and can I just say... whatausername!

First of all... nightclubs aren't exactly the ideal meeting place for women. mostly it's drunken fumbles etc so I wouldn't worry too much about that.

Secondly, I think you're being a little hard on yourself. You're only single a few months. Give yourself a chance Otherwise you'd be in and out of relationships like a fiddler's elbow.

From reading ur post, you've an excellent sense of humour - very witty which women find very attractive... and if you look like aidan from home n away you've NOTHING to worry about. He's hot.

If I'm approached in a nightclub I must prefer a guy to be himself, a gentleman, funny and friendly. And you sound like you fit the bill, so just have some confidence and introduce yourself. And if all else fails I'll give ya my phone number (only joking!) best of luck