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LegacyUser

Ok here it goes.

I am trying to think of the best way to word this and is working out kinda hard but anyway i will give it a go. This morning me and my boyfriends were in bed and i woke up to his finger up my vagina when i woke up I told him to stop and he said wait a minute and I said stop again and pulled away. Now for some reason it has been playing on my mind all day, and to be honest I dont know weather I am overreacting or is it normal.

Alot of the time I wake up to him rubbing my ass and I tell him to stop doing it all the time but still the next morning or the morning after i will wake up to him doing it again. Also a few times I have woke up and my vagina has been a bit sore. Is this normal or am I overreacting sorry I know its not worded very well but its the best I could think of for now.

shellyboo

It's normal for some couples, certainly... but if you're uncomfortable with it, he shouldn't be doing it. You need to sit him down outside of the bedroom when sex is not on the cards and tell him straight out that you're not ok with him touching you in that way when you're alseep.

LegacyUser

I certainly wouldn't consider it abnormal. I don't think it makes him a sex abuser, but its bad manners! I had that with my bf, eventually, after a harsh word he got the message and now no more problem :-)

dudara

Men can be as horny as hell in the morning, but actually penetrating you with his fingers while you're asleep is unacceptable.

If you're not comfortable with this, let him know in no uncertain terms.

SarahSassy

I wouldnt be happy with this tbh. Not for prudish reasons and am more than happy to be slowly woken for some sleepy action but this is a bit sly - he thinks you are unconscious and he is fingering you??? Was he doing it to try to wake you up for some action?

VaioCruiser

Needs help wrote: »

Ok here it goes.

I am trying to think of the best way to word this and is working out kinda hard but anyway i will give it a go. This morning me and my boyfriends were in bed and i woke up to his finger up my vagina when i woke up I told him to stop and he said wait a minute and I said stop again and pulled away. Now for some reason it has been playing on my mind all day, and to be honest I dont know weather I am overreacting or is it normal.

Alot of the time I wake up to him rubbing my ass and I tell him to stop doing it all the time but still the next morning or the morning after i will wake up to him doing it again. Also a few times I have woke up and my vagina has been a bit sore. Is this normal or am I overreacting sorry I know its not worded very well but its the best I could think of for now.

In my opinion the problem here is not what he doing - it is perfectly normal. The problem is the fact that he is doing these things AFTER you have told him to stop.

This in my view is what you need to confront him about.

All the best

newbie_84

Hi op,

I think that in a relationship this is perfectly normal behaviour IF he is doing this because he thinks you might be half awake and it is an attempt to turn u on. To me that seems kinda normal for a couple. I do think its strange, however, that u have asked him not to do this and yet he continues to. And even more odd, is the fact that he now obviously knows that u are completely unconscious while he's doing it. This is just weird, i cant even think what possible enjoyment he could be getting out of it if ur completely unaware of whats going on! anyway, i do think u need to address this issue with him and let him know its not on! Either that, or invest in a chastity belt!!!!!!