How to tell her I'm not interested

LegacyUser

As a man (22) I'm used to women telling me that THEY are not interested (well they rarely say it, they just go into ignore mode, you know the way) well now for the first time I want to tell a woman that I'm not interested in her.

A nice personality, she is a very curvy but I just don't feel anything for her, I don't like her face at all. To be honest looks do matter, like I don't even want to kiss her. I'd love to do you know what but when it comes to her face it would be like kissing my sister.

I know this sounds so shallow, but maybe my disinterest is not because of her unattractive face.

How can I tell her, she is a bit on the heavy side, so if I make any reference to appearance she might go psycho (she has self image problems before)

SarahSassy

ovens wrote: »

As a man (22) I'm used to women telling me that THEY are not interested (well they rarely say it, they just go into ignore mode, you know the way) well now for the first time I want to tell a woman that I'm not interested in her.

A nice personality, she is a very curvy but I just don't feel anything for her, I don't like her face at all. To be honest looks do matter, like I don't even want to kiss her. I'd love to do you know what but when it comes to her face it would be like kissing my sister.

I know this sounds so shallow, but maybe my disinterest is not because of her unattractive face.

How can I tell her, she is a bit on the heavy side, so if I make any reference to appearance she might go psycho (she has self image problems before)

Your regular reference to her weight are making you appear shallow.. Dont mention her appearance to her. Just say you think she is a lovely person but dont think the 2 of ye are a good fit for a romantic relationship.

Be nice.

seahorse

If you don't fancy her you don't fancy her. It's as simple as that and you've got nothing to explain or apologise for. Just tell her you think she's a nice girl but you're not interested in starting anything romantic or intimate with her.

shellyboo

Yeah, if you don't fancy her you don't fancyher . But for the love of god don't tell her it's because she's too fat. Tell her you're just interested in her in that way.

I mean it about not telling her she's too fat - even if she asks you, lie. Seriously.

LegacyUser

I'm a man for the record and I know exactly how you feel. If you're not feeling it don't lie to yourself or her. End it. Don't develop something where you're going out with someone for the sake of it. You won't be happy. You're better off alone. If you like her personality-wise tell her and leave it to her if she wants friendship.

I had a chance a few months back with a hot chick. I liked her personality too. But there were one or two things that I just didn't find attractive. I didn't go for it and glad I didn't. Now going out with someone I'm very attracted to and very happy with....

And don't let anyone tell you you're shallow. It's very importanat as a man to feel sexually attracted to your partner. While looks are important, a relationship should not be looks-centric. They are important but not everything!

VaioCruiser

ovens wrote: »

How can I tell her, she is a bit on the heavy side, so if I make any reference to appearance she might go psycho (she has self image problems before)

Why would you want to destroy her confidence and self esteem ? Do you hate her ? if not then forget that.

What you need to do is just say to her, very nicely, that she is a lovely girl but that there is no chemistry and you wish her all the best.

End of story.

All the best.