Ever feel like its not worth it?

SarahChambers

I dont know why I try sometimes. Do you ever feel like no matter what you do life is just going to fall apart no matter what. For example, I had a big thing planned for tonight with all of my friends from school who I haven't seen in ages. I was going to meet them in the bar in college and then we were supposed to go on to a club in town for the night. I went into the bar and next thing I see one of my best friends from school with my ex boyfriend. That was bad enough, but then the two of them just ended up rubbing it in my face for the whole time I was there, basically saying that I am a loser. I just left it and I walked home from ucd crying and now I am at home. I dont want to go to college and I dont care abotu anythign any more. Life is more effort than it is worth. I cant do this anymore. Does anyone else think that

brummytom

I think everyone feels like that sometimes. People are cúnts to be honest. I'm sure most people have thought life's more effort than it's worth. But just think of what could be. To quote a horribly irritating song, "things can only get better". It's true.

Also, Personal issues would be better for this sort of thing.

abouttobebanned

There are people who can't afford to pay their mortgage or any other bills that are coming through the door. Last year they had good jobs and a future. This year all they have is sleepless nights and thoughts of ending it all. Perspective.

Praetorian Saighdiuir

Dont be so hard on yourself SarahC. There will be far more better nights out there just waiting for you! Nothing always goes to plan, and as for the "friends" feck them, organise yourself to spend time with other worthwhile people!

CoachBoone

I really did think your posts were all just trolling...

Now Im not so sure.

Where are you from? Crappy situation to be in, can you go home for a few days, see the family, chill out and clear youre head and then come back to UCD?

Its really not as bad as you think it is right now so maybe a short change of scenery will put things into perspective for you.

AlmightyCushion

Moved from after hours.

SarahChambers

CoachBoone wrote: »

I really did think your posts were all just trolling...

Now Im not so sure.

Where are you from? Crappy situation to be in, can you go home for a few days, see the family, chill out and clear youre head and then come back to UCD?

Its really not as bad as you think it is right now so maybe a short change of scenery will put things into perspective for you.

I wish. My family are no help. All I was talking about all yesterday was how I was looking forward to meeting my friends again, and then tonight when I was getting ready to go all I get from my mom is dirty looks because my skirt is too short. I live right near college and I still stay as late as I can to stay away from them. I am sorry to everyone for this I shouldn't bring you down just because my life sucks. Sorry I am just sorry for everything now

krudler

Waaaahhhhhh Waaaahhhhhhh, op cop the **** on, if you're not happy with your life, change it, friends are cnuts? find new ones. dont like college? change course. Mother doesnt like what you wear? move out. simple as

Wibbs

OK this is PI and it's a different vibe to AH so please read the charter before posting. Calls of troll or general BS won't be tolerated. Thanks.

Anonomyte

If you are serious dont post this on a board(as per some of the above comments), get a job and support yourself, as sideshow bob once quipped "counsellman les wynan shoud do more thinkin, and less whining"........but seriously move out, get a job and support yourself, when you have settled then worry about the partying, noone will help you in this life unfortunatly, trust me. Good luck

ManOfMystery

SarahChambers wrote: »

I dont know why I try sometimes. Do you ever feel like no matter what you do life is just going to fall apart no matter what. For example, I had a big thing planned for tonight with all of my friends from school who I haven't seen in ages. I was going to meet them in the bar in college and then we were supposed to go on to a club in town for the night. I went into the bar and next thing I see one of my best friends from school with my ex boyfriend. That was bad enough, but then the two of them just ended up rubbing it in my face for the whole time I was there, basically saying that I am a loser. I just left it and I walked home from ucd crying and now I am at home. I dont want to go to college and I dont care abotu anythign any more. Life is more effort than it is worth. I cant do this anymore. Does anyone else think that

You saw your ex with a new gf who happened to be someone you know. It was an emotional moment, nothing more, nothing less - get over it.

It sickens me to read things like this saying "life is more effort than it is worth" - you don't even know what effort is yet. There are people out there at this point in time wondering where they're going to get money to get food for their children tomorrow - as someone already said, have a little perspective in life and it will stand you well.

SarahChambers

Ok how can I move out I dont have any money I already have a job but I cant work enough hours to get money to move out because I cant get time off college or anything. I am so weak sometimes it makes me sick. I wish I could go back to school when all that I had to think about was making sure I looked nice and being nice to my friends. All I ever want was to be nice to my friends so they would be nice to me. I try to be nice. People just want to take me down. People are either horrible to me before they know me, or nice for a while and then horrible. Guys only talk to me if they want sex they are not interested in me and they dont care how I feel. I hate my life I know people have a worse life but I can only talk about how I feel because this is all I know and I know that I hate this

Anonomyte

SarahChambers wrote: »

Ok how can I move out I dont have any money I already have a job but I cant work enough hours to get money to move out because I cant get time off college or anything. I am so weak sometimes it makes me sick. I wish I could go back to school when all that I had to think about was making sure I looked nice and being nice to my friends. All I ever want was to be nice to my friends so they would be nice to me. I try to be nice. People just want to take me down. People are either horrible to me before they know me, or nice for a while and then horrible. Guys only talk to me if they want sex they are not interested in me and they dont care how I feel. I hate my life I know people have a worse life but I can only talk about how I feel because this is all I know and I know that I hate this

Seriously, just stop the partying and find a nice gaffe. You will be fine, use your charms to your advantage, not for oi oi;)

LegacyUser

Give the OP a break. There are always worse things going on in the world than in any individual person's life but when you're in the middle of a bad time emotionally or otherwise, it is the worst thing in YOUR world.

OP, I hope you get some sleep and things are brighter for you in the morning.

dellas1979

You sound like a perfectly normal teen to me with normal problems.
In this life, you learn lessons, you experience things. Its not all about, as you said "looking nice and being nice to my friends".
I do think you need a little perspective as well on your situation.
If you had come on here saying you had no money to feed your child and expressed those feelings, I'd understand why you find it so hard. I know your problem is real to you but this is your time to shine my dear.
Time to grow-up.

reesa

You sound a decent sort of person - your so called best friend sounds like a b*tch - in my experience if I'm having a problem with another person sometimes it's because that other person is jealous (took me a long time to figure that out) - try to hang out with people who are positive and be careful who you trust - it also sounds like you need to develop a thicker skin - getting out and meeting more people will build your confidence and then the occasional bad night out with odd scumbag "friend" won't bother you so much

Dan Chipowski

You have some trivial problems in the grand scheme of things, but they are no less important to you if they impact on your happiness. Just console yourself with the fact that not everyone is as cruel as your ex and 'friend'. If you are serious about moving out of home, work hard in college, get your qualification and you'll be better placed to move out.

Also you need to be in the right places to meet nice people, and often pubs/clubs just aren't the right place for meeting good people.

Jammyc

ManOfMystery wrote: »

It sickens me to read things like this saying "life is more effort than it is worth" - you don't even know what effort is yet.

How dare you. Everyone has their own problems and rough patches to deal with, just because this seems insignificant to you, doesnt mean its not causing the OP a lot of stress.

OP, I can relate, some days I can help but think 'why bother?' and that anything that comes of anything is only temporary anyway. All I can honestly suggest is keeping busy, its the best way to not think about things. Its all Ive managed to do so far, its not great, but its all Ive got.

Jammyc

Jammyc wrote: »

How dare you. Everyone has their own problems and rough patches to deal with, just because this seems insignificant to you, doesnt mean its not causing the OP a lot of stress.

It's true though. Sure, it was upsetting and her friend sounds like a wagon, but if she's wondering whether life is worth it over this, she's going to get a nasty shock later on. I think that suggesting the OP gets some perspective is pretty good advice. I made myself pretty miserable in my late teens and I look back and wonder what the hell I was so worried about. Life throws you enough crap to deal with, without wasting time and energy on petty little concerns.

Monkey61

[quote=[Deleted User];62107193]It's true though. Sure, it was upsetting and her friend sounds like a wagon, but if she's wondering whether life is worth it over this, she's going to get a nasty shock later on. I think that suggesting the OP gets some perspective is pretty good advice. I made myself pretty miserable in my late teens and I look back and wonder what the hell I was so worried about. Life throws you enough crap to deal with, without wasting time and energy on petty little concerns.[/QUOTE]

Not necessarily though. Out of all the **** I've been through in my life, and dear God there has been a lot, I don't think anything has been more torturous than issues to do with exes and suchlike. That stuff hurts more than anything else and that is the kind of stuff that makes you feel that life isn't worth living.

What kind of nasty shock later on though really? Everything is relative to different people and everybody is affected by certain things worse than they are by others.

parker kent

Hey it is perfectly normal to feel crap when things like that happen. A few people might have said that what you are feeling is not important, but it I know from experience how awful your situation feels.

Also starting college is traumatic enough (I've seen you post on UCD forum before!) but try to take the positives out of your situation. You have just started college so you have plenty of chances to meet new people. There are so many people in UCD that you will have your pick of guys. Ignore what your ex and the other girl say, they are just acting small minded and mean. Once you meet other people you will learn that there are people out there who are better than that. You might think all guys just want sex, but there are plenty of us out there who wont just see you as an object. As crap as you feel now, he will just be a very small chapter in a long, exciting book.

I lived at home in my undergrad too, so again I sympathize. Your Mam might seem annoying when she says stuff about your skirt but it comes from the right place. She is just worried, especially since you are getting older and moving out into the world. You'll thank her later for caring. But right not, you need to get a few hobbies, a few new friends or anything at all that keeps your mind occupied.

You have got into UCD so are obviously intelligent. Use that brain to attract new friends and get the most out of college. I've only one year left in UCD and I still have loads to do there. It is big and intimidating granted, but you will make friends for life there. I'd love to have 3 or 4 years more in it like you do! It is worth it I promise.

ManOfMystery

Jammyc wrote: »

How dare you. Everyone has their own problems and rough patches to deal with, just because this seems insignificant to you, doesnt mean its not causing the OP a lot of stress.

OP, I can relate, some days I can help but think 'why bother?' and that anything that comes of anything is only temporary anyway. All I can honestly suggest is keeping busy, its the best way to not think about things. Its all Ive managed to do so far, its not great, but its all Ive got.

I'm sure it's causing the OP a lot of stress alright. But if she is seriously wondering if life is worth it after spotting her ex with an old friend, then she's going to have some hell of a shock when life starts to throw some real big problems at her. I wish her all the best.

kjl

As John Lennon said, life is what happens when you're busy making other plans.

Its a **** situation to be in, but certainly not even close to a bad one on the grand scale of things, Clearly he wasn't the right guy for you, and clearly this girl is not your friends. Take this as a life lesson and move on. At least you have some closure on the whole thing.

College is a time for fun, go out there and meet new people. You have no excuse not to, there are lots of clubs and societies where you can go in knowing nobody and meet people you could be friends with your whole life.

I had loads of friends in school, do you know how many of them I see nowadays, none. People move on, don't expect to be friends with the same people your whole life.

As for your ex, he sounds like an immature spa anyway, so why would you care what he things or who he dates?

Cheer up OP, there really are more pressing issues in life, dont get bogged down in the small things.

parker kent

ManOfMystery wrote: »

I'm sure it's causing the OP a lot of stress alright. But if she is seriously wondering if life is worth it after spotting her ex with an old friend, then she's going to have some hell of a shock when life starts to throw some real big problems at her. I wish her all the best.

It is not like the OP is in her 30s though, she can only think about or refer to the problems she has faced, not problems that other people have. As plenty have said, she will soon realise that her ex is an ass and not to worry about him. The pain will pass and it will stands to you in future. That is what college and growing up is about, you learn from new encounters. As somebody still in college, I know how big these things can feel.

OP, once you have got over this, it will stand to you in future. When you get new problems later you will have learnt to cope with them by going through this.

LegacyUser

Are you only in first year in college?
If you are, you're only in the door a week and a half. If even that. Trust me, it can only get better. You're probably over-reacting a bit, and in a month's time will look back and ask yourself what all the fuss was about. Did your ex and your friend actually SAY anything to you, or did you just come up with this from looking at them?
Give college a chance. It's a huge change. The one thing I will say ( I went to an all-girsl school) was that some groups of friends found it hard to break away from each other, because for the first few weeks, some people tried to hold on to their old school group, and others went in to college and made loads of new friends. There were rows. I'm not saying dump your old friends. I'm saying this is a whole new world, and you now have the opportunity to meet loads of new people. But you've got to go out and try it. I know there is nothing more some days than wanting to hide in a hole somewhere, but honestly that's life. You'll feel like that a different points through your entire life.
There are loads of nice guys out there. At this stage in college, most the really nice guys are only finding their feet too, and are too shy to talk to talk to random strangers. You will probably find you are a completely different person yourself by this time next year. Be open to the change. It's exciting. Terrifying too I know!
Don't worry too much about your friends. They'll go their own ways too, but you'll still be friends. You've got to understand that everything's changing. Roll with it.
And the entire world isn't against you you know! That's what it sounds like from your last post.Just be you. You don't have to be nice to everyone so they are nice to you. Maybe they might actually just like you for who you are? Give people a chance - they see you as you see yourself you know.

LegacyUser

I understand perfectly how you feel OP, pretty much the same thing happened me not too long ago, but my brother was in the position of your friend. My advice is to leave this so-called friend behind. You don't need somebody like that in your life, if they're willing to do something like this once they will do it again.

I suggest you use your college life to make a clean break. I suppose I'm lucky in that I moved away from home for college and could make a fresh start. You'll meet a ton af new people and you're bound to make new friends so don't get too upset over what happened. Plus there's clubs & socs, college events, sports and all sorts to occupy you if you need a distraction now and again.

As for your mother, she's just looking out for you, try not to be too hard on her. Her little girl is off to college, making the first steps to leaving home, she's just trying to be your mother for as long as she can before you go out to take care of yourself. I got the exact same thing from my parents when I started going to college.

You're going to feel like things are a bit shit and completely out of control sometimes but you just have to work through them, there's plenty of ups as well as downs. And don't listen to those ones telling you that you're problems don't matter. You're problems are important to you and you have every right to be pissed off and upset over them.