Girlfriends first time

LegacyUser

Hi guys going unreg for this one.

I've just started going with a girl this past month or so. Before we actually made things official, we had been seeing each other for 3 or 4 months. I'm a little older than her and if i'm totally honest I have a lot of experience sexually. I had one long term girlfriend and after relationship finished I was having lots of casual sex. But since I met my girl friend I've really settled. Problem is I know my girlfriend is a virgin. We've talked about it and eventually we will start to sleep together. But when we do I want to make it as memorable for her as possible cos its her first time. Any advice on how I can do this? Im not asking about sexual techniques or anything i'm asking more about how I can reassure her and take care of her??

shellyboo

Aww, OP! Aren't you lovely. Well, I'd say you're more than halfway there - your attitude is spot on, she's a luckly gal.

Aside from being patient with her, the main thing you need to remember is that her first time is gonna hurt; and there's nothing you can do about that really. The best way to deal with it is take it really, really slow... lots and lots and lots of foreplay and then be really gentle.

As for taking care of her, you already are by thinking about making it special for her!

wexford202

OP you are the one with the expierence. She has none so you can only imagine how she is feeling about it!!!

You seem like a really good guy so by saying just be yourself I am sure you will be more than good for her.

Best of luck.

krudler

Like was already said, take it very slowly and gently, first time means a lot to a girl so keep this in mind, it doesnt need to be mindblowing sex and tbh it probably wont be as she'll no doubt be nervous, just make her feel comfortable and remember this is all about her, there'll be plenty of time for upping the ante later on

LegacyUser

Hi OP here. Thanks for the advice guys. I guess I've been lucky in that i've always been with fairly experienced girls! By the way candles and stuff? Too sleazy??

Cleopatra12

Sleazy?? nan, not at all... nice and romantic!

wexford202

unregistered wrote: »

Hi OP here. Thanks for the advice guys. I guess I've been lucky in that i've always been with fairly experienced girls! By the way candles and stuff? Too sleazy??

Not sleazy but maybe hold off on that kind of thing until the second or third time.

She will prbably be so nervous that it might make her worse.

LegacyUser

Hi OP here.

Just an update. So my girlfriend invited me down to her uni house to stay for the night. I landed down not expecting anything and we had a great wee night until it came to bed time when she asks if its ok with me to sleep in a different room than her?!?! I have to admit I was completly shocked and didnt know what to say and ended up saying it was no bother when really I was totally fuming. I didnt sleep for a good few hours I was that annoyed. Now I wasnt annoyed that we didnt have sex. I just thought it was extremely weird her wanting me to sleep in a different room. Surely its not totally out of order of me to want to share the same bed or even a wee cuddle before we fell asleep?? I am still very annoyed about it and wish I had said something to her last night. I dunno what to do now!!

wexford202

Hi Op

You really need to talk tot he girl at tis stage. In fairness that is not right to sleep in different roons just because you weren't going to have sex!

If that was the case we would all be in different rooms for quarter of the year!

I think the girl is right to wait for the first time but she wuld want to be careful as she will just build up a fear of doing it so bad she will never be comfortable. If it makes you feel any better I was i the spare room last night too (because of husbands snoring);)

SarahSassy

unregistered wrote: »

Hi OP here. Thanks for the advice guys. I guess I've been lucky in that i've always been with fairly experienced girls! By the way candles and stuff? Too sleazy??

Not at all! That would be lovely.

You need to find out why she put you in the other room. Just ask in conversation. unusual...

shellyboo

Yeah, OP, just ask her. Maybe she's not quite ready yet and didn't want any confusion? Or maybe she thought it would be teasing to get into bed with you but not have sex.